Many women would rather be an older leftover than find a random man to live with, but men are different. Many times if they can't find the woman they like, they will probably find a life that suits them. What's the reason? What?
Women are emotional animals. They can rarely weigh the pros and cons rationally in the face of feelings. Few women can do scheming and force themselves for the sake of material itself. Enter a circle that does not belong to you.
However, they are instinctively attracted to the excellent qualities of men, such as strong ability, enterprising spirit, self-discipline, masculinity, etc.
The premise for them to fall in love with a man is that they appreciate and respect the man from the bottom of their hearts.
Speaking of respect, I think of a scene in an American TV series. There is a couple living in Beverly Hills, Hollywood. The husband is a soap opera actor and the wife is a movie actress. These two couples have constant quarrels every day.
The wife often speaks harshly and sarcastically towards her husband. Especially after the wife’s career gets better and better, the relationship between husband and wife takes a turn for the worse, and the wife even has an affair.
Once the couple held a party at home. The husband overheard his wife talking to a friend. The wife cried and said to her friend,
"My husband is actually a very good person." I know this in my heart, but I can’t love him well.
Look at him, he doesn’t care if he can’t do his job well. I can’t respect such a man, I can’t do it. To love a man that I don’t respect at all.”
My wife shed tears as she said this, and I felt emotional when I saw this. I thought for a moment, because when I usually receive consultations, I often encounter female clients saying similar things to me.
The reason why their marriages have problems is because their husbands think she is strong, or that she has a bad temper, likes to nag, etc. During the consultation, they will say to me,
"Actually, I also I don’t want to yell at my husband or complain about him all day long, but every time I see my husband acting like a dead dog, he is not as good as a woman like me, and I can’t be gentle and tolerant to him.”
I. I give this example to say that men have a need to be respected in intimate relationships, but in fact, women also have a need to respect each other in intimate relationships.
Women will be attracted to men they respect. Women fall in love with a man and have the motivation to continue to give love. The premise is that the woman respects the man in her heart. They simply cannot fall in love with a man they do not respect. , which is also the reason why they "don't get married".
Generally, the women we come into contact with on a daily basis will eventually marry a man of the same class but slightly more capable than herself, or someone who, in her opinion, has advantages and disadvantages.Highlights man.
This is a two-way choice for her and her spouse, and both parties have their needs met. sense of security, and marital stability is relatively strong.
Finally, I want to say that topics related to marriage and love can be interpreted from the perspectives of psychology, anthropology, and sociology, so don’t lead in the direction of gender opposition.
We do not rule out that there are people who dislike the poor and prefer the rich when choosing a mate. Even if there are men who are willing to be lovelies, right, those are not a mass group and cannot represent the entire male or female group.
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