Trust is the basis for maintaining love. Once love loses its lover, it will completely change. Once trust is lost, what will the relationship eventually become?
1. Trust is the glue of love
An Australian organization published a relationship indicator survey in 2001. The survey showed that the relationship between Lack of trust ranks fourth among the most important causes of breakdown.
Therefore, the importance of trust in intimate relationships.
Social psychology divides trust into two types:
One is "cognitive trust", which is based on the knowledge and evidence we have about something. Trust in making choices.
The other is "emotional trust". This kind of trust is based on our emotional connection with another person, including the feelings generated by interacting with each other, thus creating a sense of security and trust in the other person.
What we call trust in love is "emotional trust."
Trust in love means that he knows that you will not leave, and you know that he will definitely come back.
2. Love without trust is full of holes
Some people say that trust is like a Paper, once trust is gone and the paper becomes wrinkled, no matter how hard you try to smooth it out, it will never return to its previous appearance.
When you trust someone, you will believe whatever they say and will never doubt or worry.
But once you lose trust, you will become cautious even if he or she says a word inadvertently, and you will speculate and doubt over and over in your mind.
In "The First Half of My Life", Luo Zijun married Chen Junsheng as soon as she graduated and became a full-time wife.
She spends her day shopping and checking whether her husband has been having an affair with anyone else.
When he stopped contacting for a while, he would call him serially. When he saw him getting too close to other women, he doubted their relationship.
Even went to the company to make a fuss and argue endlessly.
In the end, the two people really got divorced and separated on bad terms.
There is a saying that goes like this:
Distrust is like a seed. As long as it falls into your heart, you will always doubt it. Sometimes you will know it is not the case, but you will involuntarily Doubt, and this seed cannot be dug out, it will only grow bigger and bigger until it grows into a big tree and completely collapses everything.
Love without trust is like a house that has been in disrepair. No matter how gorgeous it looks on the outside, it is riddled with holes inside and will eventually collapse.
3. Don’t be casualIntentional overdraft of trust
There is a term in psychology called "emotional account".
If a person treats you well, he or she is depositing money in your "emotional account"; if he or she treats you badly, he or she is withdrawing money from this "emotional account".
In a positive and stable intimate relationship, two people will understand each other and contribute to each other, and their "emotional account" will continue to increase in value smoothly.
In an unhealthy relationship, there is only mutual suspicion and accusation, and their emotional accounts will be in a state of constant consumption.
When the emotional account is negative, the relationship between two people can no longer be supported.
The relationship between two people will get better and better if they have more trust and less suspicion.
Trust is like a credit card whose limit you never see. Don’t max it out because you can’t afford it.
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