Some boys don’t want to fall in love and choose to be single actively. This is their own choice and there’s nothing to say about it. However, there are also boys who are full of expectations for love, but they repeatedly hit the wall when chasing girls. These passive single boys seem to be born with Love is insulated, so what are the reasons for this?
1. Words are not worthy of personal charm
One of the favorite things for young boys who have never been in love is to tell the world that "I won't marry her unless I meet a girl I like". Before her hair even grows, she will show off A "I'm the most awesome" attitude.
What is the result?
If this boy is really a domineering CEO with strong financial strength, it would be fine, but the reality is that this boy does not dare to type when chatting with girls. It is difficult I met a girl. I hesitated for a long time and started sweating in my pants. A giant in words, a dwarf in action.
If you don’t have strong personal value support, such “bold words” will only make girls feel that “this boy is unreliable and unreasonable”. In addition to reducing the already low charm, other Useless.
He is the kind of boy who "punches hard behind the scenes but is submissive in reality". It can be seen at a glance that this young man has never been in love.
He may have had people he liked, but they were all scared away by what he did.
2. Serious self-imposed limitations
Some boys, when they meet a girl they like, This will lead to thoughts like this:
“Forget it, her ex-boyfriend is so rich, why should he fall in love with me?”
“Come on, I’m not tall or handsome. You don’t know how to flirt with girls, so don’t ask for trouble.”
What’s more, he will actively find faults in girls
“This girl must not look good without makeup. ”
“With so little clothes on, he must be a green tea girl who has had countless men and is unreliable.”
Such a boy can be summed up in two points: not only is he lazy, but he is also a coward. , and also likes to have a bad mouth.
Let’s say these boys have low self-esteem. They are also willing to find faults with other girls to find reasons for themselves to be single. Call them arrogant, but when they really face the girl they like, they can't beat a fart with three sticks, and they feel that they have no hope from the beginning.
Such boys almost never take the initiative. Even if they meet a girl they particularly like, they will give in without a fight and start to find various reasons to convince themselves to settle for the status quo.
Such boys often have one thing in common that can be seen at a glance:
They live in their own little world, scolding girls for materialism on the anonymous Internet, and Complaining about being single again and being crazy in the real worldCrazy to set limits for himself, even if you encourage him to take the initiative, he will find various reasons to imply that he is not good enough, or to vilify other girls.
3. Avoidant attachment personality
Avoidant attachment personality has a very fatal flaw:< /p>
“Never believe that you are worthy of being loved.”
This leads to such people not to take the initiative to contact the people they like, but also to treat those who like them as Turned away from the start.
Such people often have an “unloved” family of origin. I have extremely low self-esteem and am unwilling to affirm my own value.
Although I long for "being loved" in my heart, I can't escape the shadow of my childhood. Every time I think about falling in love, I comfort myself by saying, "Forget it, I'm not worth it."
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Avoidant attachment personality is often accompanied by sensitivity, anxiety, and worry about gains and losses. There are not many friends with whom you can talk, let alone a good person of the opposite sex. He likes to be alone in everything, and is often the most inconspicuous little transparent among the crowd.
People who have never been loved since childhood not only feel that they are "unworthy of being loved", but are also deeply afraid of being loved, and always firmly believe that "loneliness is the destination of their lives."
Such people are very defensive and have almost no love experience. Even if there is, it is a fake love that only exists in name only, does not dare to be taken seriously, and is only in name only.
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