Although boys shouldn’t mind their girlfriend’s past, because the past does not represent the future, if they find that their girlfriend is still in contact with her ex while they are with you, they will feel a little uncomfortable. One is that he is afraid that his girlfriend will do something outrageous with his ex behind his back; the other is that the boy is somewhat concerned that his girlfriend is involved with his ex. What does it mean for your girlfriend to keep in touch with her ex? What should you do if you find out that your girlfriend is still in contact with her ex?
1. Understand what it means for your girlfriend to keep in touch with her ex
Boys should not get mad when they find out that their girlfriend is in contact with her ex. It depends on why her girlfriend contacted her ex, when she contacted her, and how she contacted her ex. Did I tell you that time?
Generally speaking, if your girlfriend contacts her ex because of work or business contacts, there is nothing wrong with it. But if you still keep in touch in private, or even go out to eat and play together, you should be careful. Either the girlfriend can't let go of her ex and is treading two different rivers; or the girlfriend is simple-minded and thinks it's nothing, and coupled with the man's sweet talk, the two of them are disconnected.
Just ask her directly how she feels about her ex. If she doesn’t hide it or avoid it, tell her to keep her distance: If you are vague or evasive, then tell her that you care, your attitude should be serious, and your tone should be serious, so that she feels that you are serious. In addition, you can observe from your girlfriend's usual words and deeds towards you to see if she is still treating you well and communicating with you. The more you observe, the more results you will get.
2. What to do if you find that your girlfriend is in contact with her ex
1. Communicate well
Whether you are a man or a woman, it is important to contact your ex during the relationship. Disrespect for the current incumbent is also a sign of not caring about the current incumbent. You should have a good talk with your girlfriend. Friends don’t have to be exes. Besides, no one is so in need of friends. You don't want her to be sad sometimes because you are still in contact with your ex-girlfriend, so you cut off the relationship with your ex-girlfriend. In the same way, you also hope that she can understand your feelings.
2. Reflect on yourself
Many times when your girlfriend contacts her ex, it may be because you don’t care about her enough. Maybe you and her had a quarrel and had a cold war, maybe you stayed at home on weekends and refused to go shopping with her... She received a message from her ex when she was bored, and the two naturally started chatting. In this case, if you can be nicer to your girlfriend and be more considerate to her, she will consciously reduce contact with her ex. After all, there is a long future between you and me, and your ex is just a memory of the past.
In fact, regardless of the situation where your girlfriend and your ex have to contact each other, you should prevent your girlfriend from continuing to contact your ex. If you are nostalgic for the past, where is your current position? Feelings are selfish and no one is willing to share them with others. If you need it in your relationship or lifeIf you want to find someone to talk to and share, you should not go to your ex. You can talk to your good brothers, best friends, or good friends. Things that can be solved by your ex can usually be solved by your current girlfriend. Who wouldn’t mind if my partner contacts his ex?
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