Although masculinity has a derogatory connotation, it also has good things. But when a girl says that you are a masculine person, it proves that she does not see these good things in you, and It is the shortcoming of male chauvinism.
So what behaviors of boys will be said by girls to be chauvinistic? What should we do in the face of such a situation?
1. Go your own way
It is indeed a good thing for boys to have their own opinions, but if they are too self-centered and cannot listen to anything, it may become a male chauvinism in the eyes of girls. .
Some friends may have this doubt:
When we watch idol dramas, girls obviously like to act like domineering presidents. Why do they think of me in reality? What about machismo?
This is because a domineering president is not just domineering, he is domineering and handsome, or hegemonic and rich and courageous. The X added after domineering is the core value of attracting the opposite sex.
2. Excessive desire for control
Excessive desire for control is mainly manifested in the pursuit stage of not being able to tolerate girls. The presence of other members of the opposite sex. During the relationship, ask the other party to delete all contact information of the opposite sex. Trying to keep track of what girls are doing at all times.
You know, a partner who is overly controlling is often the most troublesome.
Because they will base their inner sense of security on their strong control over their other half, leaving the other half no room to breathe.
In fact, the desire to control is simply your insecurity. You are afraid that she will do something sorry for you, and you are afraid that she will leave you.
We often spend a lot of energy thinking about these trivial matters, but we ignore trust, which was established when you were still friends.
Therefore, by finding the source of your insecurity and reducing your strong desire to control your partner, your relationship can become stronger.
3. Slightly mommy-like attributes
As mentioned earlier, male chauvinism usually has its own boss. Well, those boys who have no independent opinions in daily life will often blindly follow the opinions of their family members.
They have almost no judgment of their own, and rely on their strong personalities to carry out their wrong opinions to the end, making their other half feel very uncomfortable.
In order to avoid direct conflict with you, she can only say weakly, "Oh, can you stop being so macho?"
Friends who are struck by this scenario, usually the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will give you a headache. We say that when the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law arises,When the question came up, all three parties, mother-in-law, daughter-in-law and me, had problems.
We can’t solve their problems, we can only solve our own problems. In life, there are many things involving third parties.
We men should play the role of mediator and double-sided tape in this relationship. Be each other's angels, rather than standing on the sidelines and helping one party suppress the other.
You know, a woman who understands you will try to avoid quarrels between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Since we want to be a man who understands her, we must learn to properly handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and not be chauvinistic.
The above is the concrete manifestation of boys’ “machismo” in the three stages of pursuit, love and marriage.
I will tell you how we should control it when we have this kind of situation to avoid putting pressure on the other party.
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