Scumbag men are erratic, while straight men are more single-minded. However, in relationships, many girls would rather choose those erratic scumbag men as their shared boyfriends than choose that dull straight man as their exclusive boyfriend. What is this? What's the reason?
In fact, the reason why girls choose those scumbag men is just because of a beautiful word. The only difference between a straight man and a scumbag is this beautiful saying. To put it more bluntly, a girl wants to fall in love with a person who has high emotional intelligence and who can make her feel comfortable no matter what he says or does.
Take chat as an example.
1. Opening
I believe that most friends start their interactions with new girls by saying "Hello" and "Hello". Have you ever thought about what it would be like to receive such a message? It's up to us how we respond.
It’s nothing more than choosing one of “Hello”, “Hi” and “Hello”, or at best adding an emoticon similar to the opening. Then, the topic was handed over to us again.
After scratching our heads and unable to figure out how to start a new topic, a classic scene was released.
"What are you doing?"
"Did you eat?"
"What did you eat?"
"Is it delicious?"
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...
Don’t say that the other person is ignoring you. If it were us, we would also be made to vomit blood by these boring words.
If you still feel good about yourself, then take a look at this opening.
"Hey, has anyone said that you look like XXX."
Don't underestimate this sentence. The essence lies in XXX. Just use a celebrity or a good-looking Internet celebrity. It’s OK.
For example, has anyone said that you look like Gao Yuanyuan? This not only gives the other person something to answer, but also praises her without leaving any trace.
Just imagine how you would feel if someone said you looked like Daniel Wu.
It’s hard not to keep chatting with the other person, after all, you want to hear more compliments later...
This is the beginning of high emotional intelligence.
2. Normal times
In fact, it is very simple. Follow one principle - exaggerate more and lose less.
For example:
Girl: "I'm so annoyed. I made another mistake at work and was scolded by my boss."
Straight man: "I made another mistake. From now on Keep a longer memory..."
Girl: "I'm so annoyed. I made another mistake at work and was scolded by the boss."
Scumbag: "Does the boss think you're working so hard? It’s not wrong, but it’s wrong to curse people.”
My friends, do you suddenly feel that your emotional intelligence is really affected by such a comparison?Scumbag crushes.
I know that you do it for her own good, and you feel sorry for her being scolded by her boss, so you remind her to pay attention next time and remember it better.
However, everyone is an adult, and she definitely doesn’t want to make a mistake, nor does she want to be scolded by the leader. She knows the truth, and she talks just so that someone can stand on her side, not too much. A scolding "leader".
On the other hand, the scumbag not only affirmed her efforts, but also maintained a high degree of emotional consistency with her.
Which girl doesn’t want a boyfriend like this.
Remember, at any time and in any situation, a compliment will make her happier than any other words.
For example, when the other person compliments you:
“You look so handsome today.”
“That’s for sure, I want to meet such an outstanding person like you. Of course you have to clean it up.”
For example, when the other party sends a boring conversation:
“Good morning.”
“That’s great. I'll meet you when I open my eyes."
"I'm busy first."
"Go, I'll wait for you."
"So look, It's the same as talking, but chatting with high emotional intelligence gives people a different feeling. Praise more than blame, and be in the same mood.
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