When a couple falls in love, they will definitely develop in the direction of marriage, but love and marriage are two different things after all. Marriage means responsibility, so you must carefully consider how long is the best time to fall in love and get married. What about time?
1. Both parties have sufficient financial resources
For marriage, "Money" may not be the most important, but it must be the most necessary. You must have heard the saying "Poor and lowly couples are miserable."
Even if neither of you are materialistic people, you still need to understand that "marriage and love" are completely different things.
When falling in love, the biggest expenses are nothing more than giving gifts, traveling, occasionally having a big meal and buying some small gifts. Even if two people earn 3,000 a month, this can all be within the range.
But what about marriage? Let’s not shy away from saying that the bottom line that determines the quality of married life is cars, houses and deposits.
In Chinese-style marriage, the house is one of the most basic sources of security for both parties, the car determines the breadth and quality of social interaction between the two parties, and the money determines the ability of both parties to withstand risks.
If both parties are unable to achieve these most basic things, let alone the issues such as children’s education, loan pressure, and support for the elderly after marriage, any slight change in money will be enough to crush each other’s final relationship. nerve.
2. Parents of both parties agree
Once a man and a woman move from love to marriage, Then there must be two things that cannot be avoided - "betrothal gift" and "dowry".
Although I admit that for many young people, these things are dispensable, but for those whose parents are of the older generation, this is actually a big deal.
How much does the man need to prepare for the bride price? How much dowry will the woman give in return? Will the money be used for the family, or will it be held by a certain family? After the marriage, the right to control the money will belong to one person. , or should the two of you discuss it?
No matter how old you are now, as soon as you start to think about "marriage", if you can't agree on these material things, you may end up "having more than you want." But the strength is not enough."
3. Both parties have fully adapted.
When it comes to love, for many young people, it is all about appearances.
Because two people will show each other the best side of themselves, but they will involuntarily hide many of their own dissatisfactions.
People who are neat and tidy when meeting may not even wash their socks at home. A person who is quite considerate on weekdays may not even pay utility bills in private.
You need to understand "the difference between a love partner and a marriage partner", "Talk about marriage"Marry" means that you have to spend at least forty years with a person day and night. Many daily trivial matters that are ignored by two people during their relationship may become the trigger for irreconcilable conflicts after marriage.
4. Both parties have reached the same view on fertility
If you want to transition from love to marriage, then there are things that cannot be avoided within three years. The question is "childbirth".
Do you want to give birth? Are you able to give birth? When will you give birth? Who will bear the surname after the birth? How many children will you have? Should the couple take care of it, or should one parent take care of it? Which primary school will you go to in the future?
If you don’t discuss these issues with your partner before marriage, then nine times out of ten you will have a big fight over these issues after marriage.
Now that you have the intention to get married, you must give careful consideration to the education of your children. Marriage is not just a temporary pleasure for two people, but they must be responsible for each other and for each other's descendants.
5. There is no conflict in the future plans of both parties
Yes, I have received very typical marital consultations, and they are all inseparable from this contradiction:
The wife complained to her husband, "Why don't you care about the family every day?" The husband in turn blamed his wife, "I don't go out to socialize, so why don't I wait for the family to drink northwest wind?" The quarrel failed to produce any results, and finally they got into a fight.
Therefore, since you are considering getting married, you must discuss with your partner before marriage "who will live outside the house and who will live in the house." Since you are pursuing your partner's high salary before marriage, you must accept that he is busy with work after marriage and settle down as soon as possible. Reaching a consensus is helpful for the long-term operation of marriage.
Similarly, many young couples who want to get married have just entered the society, and the two people must also discuss whether to stay in the big city. Work hard, or return to your hometown for stable development." If you face a crisis in a different place just after getting married, then the marriage is likely to be in jeopardy.
Even if I say that the best age for men and women to get married is 28 Years old, but you still don’t have a partner at the age of 27. Even if you think clearly about the above principles, no one can marry you.
After all, it’s not the country that can marry you when you are of the right age to get married. We will send you a partner for free.
Age is not the threshold for marriage. The best age for marriage varies from person to person, but there is one common and necessary prerequisite - you must meet first. Find someone worthy of your trust.
Therefore, there is no absolutely suitable age, only a partner and yourself who are absolutely suitable for marriage. If you can figure it out when you are twenty, then get married now. , in fact, it is not too early. On the contrary, if you have not reached these indicators when you are forty years old, or have never even considered it, then this marriage can be said to be "unsuitable"
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