There are no aloof girls in the world. Only when there are more people who don’t know how to flirt with girls do girls become aloof.
Most people are like this when chatting. They will only chat passionately with those who can talk well, and will ignore those who are not cold.
Therefore, many times a girl doesn’t reply to your message just because she doesn’t want to chat with you, not because she is cold.
You must know that love is the process of two people who do not love each other find love and establish love.
Therefore, if you want to make a cold girl proactive, you need to understand her needs and interests, and then use corresponding techniques to deal with them according to the corresponding problems. Only then can she slowly become interested in you and start to like you.
So, how to make a cold girl become proactive?
1. How to chat
A large part of the reason why a girl is cold to you is because you did not leave a good first impression on her when chatting.
The opening determines your first impression in this girl’s mind, so,
Remember one principle when opening: the girl must be the most interested in her own topic. Therefore, our opening remarks should be centered around her presentation, hobbies, etc.
For example, she shared some travel photos in her circle of friends, hoping to share this feeling with others.
Then you can say: "The photos in your Moments are quite beautiful." or "The photo you just posted in the Moments is quite close to my home";
If her circle of friends happens to have shared a certain song, then you can say: "Hi, turn to the XX song you shared, it has been on my single cycle recently";
Millions Don’t start with words like “Are you there, beauty?” or “What are you doing, send me a photo?”
Secondly, you cannot always ask questions when chatting. It is best to liven up the atmosphere first, show your interesting stories to the other party, and then find a common topic, so that the girls will not feel bored and will not Become aloof.
2. How to break through the relationship between friends
Lovers almost always start from friends When you have something to talk about and are tacitly aware of each other's existence, you need to take a chance and upgrade your relationship from friends!
For most boys, upgrading your relationship is It is also a very troublesome problem. Not only is it difficult to break through the friend stage, but as time goes by, this friendship relationship also fades.
In response to this situation, we need to provide more value to girls. Under the premise that everyone is the same, if there is someone who is humorous and can always surprise her, then everyone else will be eliminated.
Because such a man gave her the desire to continue to understand him.
Moreover, you can’t always give, but you also have to make demands to guide the other person to give.
For example, if you sometimes do a girl a favor, she will say "thank you" casually. At this time, don't just reply with a thank you. What you need to do is to reply to her: What are you going to do? How can you thank me? Why not treat me to dinner next time? (I think this is a way to guide the other party to give, rather than blindly giving one-sidedly and ending up as a spare tire)
You can also talk about your vulnerable aspects in a timely and appropriate manner, which will inspire girls' affection. heart, so that she will care about you in turn.
Your story will also bring back memories of sensitive aspects of herself. When she reveals her inner feelings to you deeply, in her subconscious mind, your relationship is far from being a simple friend.
3. How to build attraction
About this point, it may be a bit confusing Everyone is cold-hearted, but I have to say that the fundamental reason why many girls are cold towards you is that they don't like you.
When chasing a girl, don’t use “touching”, but “attract”. Touching does not mean being moved. No matter how much you pay, you will often end up with a spare tire, but attraction can truly win you. Really let girls take the initiative with you.
What kind of girls you can attract depends on what kind of person you are.
So if you want to get to know higher-level girls, the only way is to improve yourself.
Don’t think of learning to chat and fall in love just as skills to pursue girls, but more as a way to build an excellent yourself.
Your emotional intelligence and way of speaking are improving little by little. Only in this way can you attract the girl you like.
When you have accumulated a lot of knowledge, connections, and experience that are higher than hers, she will be surprised to discover your excellence and look at you with admiration. How could she be willing to become aloof or let others down? Are you a spare tire?