Initiative is a kind of dominant emotion, the ability to control the direction of emotion and the future.
However, when many boys are chasing girls, although they spend far more money and energy than girls, the relationship is still at a disadvantage and they have no initiative, so the relationship is repeatedly frustrated.
For example, boys care about girls very much, but girls only care about boys in general; boys frequently show favor to girls, but girls only occasionally respond to interactions. In this case, no matter how much the boy cares about the girl and how much he is willing to invest in the relationship, the girl's investment is very limited. In this case, the boy's efforts cannot help him improve his emotional state, and the investment is in vain.
This is why it is so difficult for brothers to chase girls. Without the initiative, they can only use catering. Use flattery to maintain relationships.
So how do you take the initiative when chasing girls? You need to do the following three points:
The first point: learn to say no
< p> "Not refusing a girl's request is one of the biggest taboos in pursuing a girl.If you will not refuse a girl’s request and always respond to her request, then you will become a person who can give and take away from her. Can a person who can be taken away from others stand in the same position as her? Obviously not.
In the relationship between men and women, women always like strong and imposing men. Men who are too submissive are not good qualities in the eyes of women. A man who can't say no to a girl really has no status in love.
Therefore, we must first learn to reject girls reasonably, so that girls can understand your attitude and know that you have your own ideas and are not someone who can be controlled casually.
But why are there so many brothers who find it difficult to say no to girls?
Mainly girls Getting angry, cold war, or even leaving you, right? In fact, there is nothing to be afraid of.
As long as your rejection is reasonable, a girl who really likes you will definitely understand you. For example, if your monthly income is only a few thousand yuan, then a girl will ask you to spend 5,000 yuan to buy a bag just because she likes something. This is obviously beyond the normal consumption range. Even if a girl gets angry at this kind of rejection, it's basically just a show of wanting you to care about her more.
If a woman can’t even understand you and is really angry, she can only say that she either doesn’t really like you, or she doesn’t understand how normal people should live their lives at all. There is a princess. The illness can kill the princess, so why not let such a woman get out of here?
Second point: Don’t confess easily
The establishment of a relationship between a man and a woman is a matter of course. If you are not mature enough to develop with her, , then confessing means putting your needs for her on the table. A smart woman will not miss this opportunity.
You like her, so you will not reject her easily. It is the most basic logic, so after a girl confesses her love, she will make good use of this relationship to influence your behavior. In this way, you will be led by her.
Therefore, as long as you can be sure that a girl likes you, the more ambiguous the relationship between you and her, the more beneficial it will be to you. If a girl is not sure whether you have feelings for her, she will be driven by a sense of need. For your investment, I will respond to your requests and greet you.
This is the advantage of having the initiative. When you take the initiative, you can also experience the feeling of a goddess being kneeled and licked.
The third point: learn to lead
In fact, girls have difficulty choosing. They don’t like to kill a bunch of brain cells for some trivial things, so in the relationship between men and women, they always like the feeling of men arranging things properly.
Then when pursuing a girl, The two biggest things are nothing more than dating and eating. If you can do the following, it will give her a very comfortable experience.
Dating: What to date, whether it is to eat or watch a movie, or something. Where to go to play, what to eat or which theater to watch movies, etc. These things about dating are also very troublesome for girls.
So we’d better not ask girls: What do you want to go to? For questions like what she wants to eat, all the boy has to do is to think about it and then tell her where to go and what to do.
p>Ordering: If you push the menu to a girl and let her do all the ordering, she will feel a headache and even think you are a bit ungentlemanly.
The correct approach is to let her see if she likes to eat first (don’t say you’ll order), and after she sees what she wants to eat, it’s up to you to decide what else she wants. For example, if she doesn’t order. Drinks, then order some according to your own ideas.
Don’t ask her. Except for a few girls who are very averse to mangoes, most of the drinks you order will be acceptable to her. But strictly speaking, you still have to consider some details. For example, if a girl is fat, she should not order high-sugar milk tea. Girls will almost never refuse watermelon juice or apple juice.
This method is. Let girls get used to youShe will gradually become dependent on you. You must know that dependence has a strong inertia. When dependence forms a habit, she will give priority to your ideas and decisions on many issues.
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