When dating a girl, it is very simple to make her not hate you. After all, no girl will hate a boy for no reason. But if you want to upgrade your relationship with a girl, you need some skills. So how to upgrade your relationship with a girl on a date?
1. Is she interested in you?
This will test our comprehensive value, including How do we feel to girls at first glance, what behaviors do we do that add points to girls, etc. As mentioned before, if the value is passable, girls will not be repulsed; if the value is high, it will be easy to attract her.
2. A girl may not be that interested in me, but at least the date must be something that interests her
For example, if the girl you like is a night owl, Well, if you ask her to go hiking on a weekend morning, it will be easy to fail, but if you ask her to watch a concert when it gets dark, it will be easy to succeed. This is easy to understand.
3. Dating either has no purpose, or has a very clear purpose that is acceptable to the other party
This means that in order to allow girls to have a relaxed dating atmosphere, we should Try to keep the purpose of the date to a minimum.
Don’t convey to girls a feeling of, “Ah, if you have a meal with me, our relationship will be the same”. In that case, girls will only be forced to refuse to date you.
And "the purpose that the other party can accept" means to initiate an invitation to the girl in a straight-to-the-point way. It can be asking a girl for help, for example, "My sister's birthday is next week, and I don't know what to give her. I want you to help me make suggestions."
It can also be an invitation to express gratitude, "Hey, thanks to you helping me last time, I'll treat you to dinner." Again, dating either has no purpose, or it has a purpose that is acceptable to the other party. Girls basically won't reject you.
In fact, if the above premise and one of the three conditions are met, the girl will have the motivation to date you.
Let’s talk about some things that are easily overlooked when dating. Of course, I believe everyone knows things like "don't be late for a date" and "try not to let the girl pay for the first time", so I won't go into too much detail.
When meeting for the first time, girls value consistency in boys most.
Some friends may have found that when we chatted online before, the girl’s feedback was pretty good in all aspects, and she even felt that she liked us a little bit, but when we met, it didn’t take long for us to feel that The girls got a little cold.
At this time, you will wonder, is it because I am not as handsome as in the photo, and she is disappointed, is it because she doesn’t like the restaurant I chose, etc.. The problem actually lies in consistency.
Since a girl agrees to date you, it means that she is very satisfied with your previous interactions.
But since this is the first time they meet offline, what she is most concerned about at this time must be whether your behavior and performance in real life are consistent with your behavior on the Internet; if they are inconsistent, give her some advice. Is it a surprise or a shock?
Negative case: Some boys chat well with girls online, but when they meet in person, they behave unnaturally due to nervousness and other reasons.
This can easily make a girl think, "Oh, it turns out you are not as funny and humorous as you are in real life", and she will be disappointed.
If you have left a mature and stable impression on a girl when chatting online before, and when it comes to meeting, you can show her your sense of humor, which will definitely be a plus;
But if you use an inappropriate little trick on her, the girl will even feel that she was deceived by you before. Therefore, the consistency during the first meeting must be grasped.
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