Blind date is originally a thing with a relatively high success rate, but some people go on blind dates many times but fail repeatedly. What is the reason?
1. Too much self-esteem
< p> People with stronger self-esteem are actually more vulnerable. The more face-conscious a person is, the easier it is to be attacked. Therefore, everyone who is shameless is living a good life, but those who are strong are miserable.The stronger a person’s self-esteem is, the less he can bear failure when going on a blind date. As we said at the beginning, it is normal for a blind date to be unsuccessful. According to our statistics, on average, each person needs to fail at least three times before he or she can have a successful relationship. There is no upper limit to the number of more excellent cases. There have been hundreds of failed blind dates over the past few years.
If your first unsuccessful blind date has dampened your self-confidence because of your excessive self-esteem, then you are likely to become one of those people who have failed hundreds of blind dates over the years.
2. Poor appearance and unwilling to take care of it
The four words "poor appearance", In fact, it is dynamic. To put it simply, if everyone is bare-faced, the most beautiful men and women will basically be in the entertainment industry, while the others will be ordinary and really good. There are not many ugly ones.
There is no shame in using appearance to attract people. Whether a woman is good-looking or not determines her aesthetic level, because a woman herself is her own best work.
If you really have no interest in dressing up and don't want to show off, then it's no wonder that your blind date is successful. As mentioned above, blind date is a pure appearance game.
3. Serious literary and artistic complex
Literary young women or artistic men are not suitable for blind dates unless the person they are dating is also literary and artistic. Damn it.
As I said before, blind dates are based on the comparison of interests, so the probability of encountering unpleasant things during the blind date is very high. Asking about salary and whether you have a house and a car is extremely disgusting.
But this kind of people are the mainstream in the dating industry, so they can be confident without asking. How to get married?
So for literary men and women, if your fantasy is a romantic encounter and the beauty of love at first sight, then blind date is really not suitable.
<p style="text" -align: center;">4. No opinion
During a blind date, there is no opinion at all. No matter how big or small the matter is, it is left to the other party to choose, decide and handle. You are completely independent. She is a passive person. Unless the other party happens to be a grown-up woman, otherwise, the other party will soonIt will be boring. And even if the other party has a strong desire to control, they will also hope to fulfill your wishes: what do you want to do? Where do you want to go? If you don't have any opinion and are always "whatever", the other party will also find it boring.
5. Too purposeful
Although, people who choose blind dates are all rushing to be single. , but no matter how anxious you are, don't write the four words "I want to be single" on your face. Go straight to the topic and express your purpose, or show your goodwill to the other party by being overly attentive. This is both stupid behavior. Your excessive enthusiasm will scare the other person away and make the other person think that you are a terrible marriage maniac. He also likes to have preconceptions, and it is not a good habit to draw premature conclusions about a blind date. Don't place too much emphasis on first impressions, and don't rule out the entire date just because of a bad first impression. It's too early to draw conclusions now. Give the other person and yourself a chance to understand each other deeply.
You must know that blind date is a test of a person's quick reaction ability. How to naturally show your high value in a short period of time and quickly win the other person's favor is very important. And when you feel that the other person is not very suitable, you have to give the other person a step back, which also tests your emotional intelligence. In reality, the probability of falling in love at first sight is very low, so it is normal for a blind date to fail.
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