There are indeed many techniques that can help us chase girls, but if the girl you chase has clearly and directly told you that she doesn’t like you, then you are actually out of luck, and it will be difficult for you to get another chance no matter what techniques you use. If you are still stalking her at this time, trying to prove that you are truly in love, then this is not called liking, but being taken advantage of.
When a girl directly says that she doesn’t like you, some people may be unconvinced and try to do everything possible. The so-called evidence to prove that they are true love, but they still have no way to answer three questions:
1. Do you like this person, or do you like yourself who devotes himself to love?
2. Has this so-called "true love" been compared?
3. Do they want to pursue this person, or do they want to use this person to prove their worth?
Let’s talk about the first question first: you don’t like this person, you really enjoy the feeling of performing.
When I was in college, there was a boy in our class who was assigned to a girl from another college because of a group assignment. He fell in love with that girl at first sight and started his crazy pursuit of that girl.
The embarrassing thing is that the girl and I are in the same student club, which means that the one who suffers the most in this relationship It’s that girl, and I’m the one who suffers second:
I want to help get a QQ number, I want to help ask that girl about her attitude towards boys, I want to help deliver love letters (yes this What age are there still people writing love letters?), I also want to help him say good things when he is blocked...Don't ask me why I want to assist, because I want to copy his homework.
That girl had made it clear that she didn’t like that boy, but he still pursued her persistently: writing love letters, sending flowers, helping with meals... Later, I gradually realized: This The boy doesn't really like the girl. The boy is just immersed in his performance.
The girl has a quiet personality and loves to study. Her favorite subject is English. But this boy has never been to the library or the English corner where girls often attend. He didn't go to the school's summer English translation volunteer activities when the public registration was open - he would rather send flowers than be blocked. Girls would rather make this matter known to everyone than seriously enter into this girl's life and create possibilities between themselves and her.
There is a kind of person with a performative personality. They are always intoxicated in their own world and are moved by the imaginary "love saint character" in their minds. In the end, what they are actually intoxicated with is that person. "Myself who seems to be crazy about love", not that girl.
They have been performing for others and themselves, and finally they moved themselves.
As for the second question, I can actually understand why some people would do so for someone who has clearly stated that they don’t like them. Crazy - because he had so few options, he could only grasp this life-saving straw.
Girls often say: I hope that the person who pursues me is very dedicated and only has eyes for me. Girls, what you want is that "the person I like also pursues me." "Very dedicated", that's a romantic movie; if someone you don't like chases you but is also very dedicated, that's a horror movie.
If a boy is not very good with the opposite sex, has few friends of the opposite sex in his daily life, and does not like to socialize, and by chance he meets a girl he likes, what will be the consequences?
He will definitely try his best to pursue that girl, because that is his only hope.
So I often advise boys and girls around me: before you decide to like someone wholeheartedly, can you first get to know other people of the opposite sex? Can you make a few comparisons? Tell me objectively that this person is indeed a good person, instead of just saying "This person is good at everything" every time you ask?
You have only been in love a few times, so you are qualified to say that you are Are you sure this person is the love of your life?
Finally, there is another situation that is the saddest: this person is no longer what you want to have. This is the person I like, but I want to prove my worth.
We all feel dejected when we are rejected by someone we like, but some people go a little further: they think that as long as they are rejected, it means that they must be worthless and that they are not good in any way.
So for them, they must get this person, because only by getting this person can they prove that they are not poor, ugly, fat, and will never be loved by anyone - so they are anxious, and the boss Because in their eyes, rejection from the person they like is a complete denial of themselves.
Do you have this kind of person in your life? It is obvious that you are dealing with him over things and not people, but when he is there, he insists on "dealing with people as well as things" with you:
What do you mean? You said I didn’t do this well, do you think I’m a waste? Do you look down on me? Why are there other people who can’t do it well, and you just criticize me? Are you targeting me? ?——If you put this attitude towards pursuing someone you like, you will understand why they are impatient.
How many times have I said it, and I have to say it again: If a person doesn’t like you, it only means that she doesn’t like you, and it can’t mean anything else.
But there will always be people who don’t listen, soThey will compete with that person wholeheartedly, just to finally catch up with that person and prove their worth.
So in my opinion, once things develop to the level mentioned in the title, it is no longer a matter of liking, it is the boss.
Your performance is too captivating, you live completely in your own world; your focus on gains and losses is too heavy, you cannot lose this last life-saving straw; you are too sensitive, so that you are impatient, He wants to prove his worth like crazy.
That’s why you fall in love with that girl who doesn’t like you at all.
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