I don’t know since when, marriage began to be linked to the economy. When contemporary urban youth talk about relationships, they always link it to houses and cars. It seems that only men who have these things are qualified to talk about marriage.
Is it really that important to be a well-matched person in a marriage?
It is very important to be a well-matched person in a marriage.
Although there is no such thing as "well-matched" in today's marriages, we all know that only two people of "equal strength" can get together. Otherwise, even if they can get together now, they will not be able to get together in real life. After living together, they will eventually separate due to various problems.
I used to have a very close friend who fell in love with his girlfriend less than half a year after I met him. At that time, many people felt that girls were unreliable, because everyone knew that girls did not have fixed jobs and always liked to post various food photos in their WeChat Moments.
Several friends also suggested that he break up with that girl as soon as possible, because obviously he couldn't control such a girl. But every time he heard these words, he got angry and thought his friend was jealous that he had found such a beautiful girlfriend.
The final result was that within a year, they began to talk about marriage, and then the conflict finally occurred.
The reason is very simple. When my friend planned to buy a wedding house, his parents insisted on preventing his friend from writing the girl’s name on the property certificate. Their reason is simple. They think that girls don't really like their sons, but they like their sons' money.
Because he listens to his parents very much, he discussed with the girl that the house can be transferred to her after a few years of marriage. Now he listens to his parents for the time being. After all, the old man is getting old, so don’t make them angry.
Unexpectedly, before the friend finished explaining, the girl became angry and threatened that if the friend did not write her name on the real estate certificate, she would not marry him.
No matter how her friends tried to persuade the girl, she refused to listen. During that time, she even cut off contact with her friends. No matter how her friends contacted her, she couldn't get in touch. Finally, with the help of other friends, he found the girl in a bar.
During that time, my friend was very distressed. He kept explaining to the girl calmly, hoping to get her forgiveness. If he doesn't listen to his parents' demands, they won't even have a chance to get married.
But the girl’s attitude was very tough. After several months of arguments, the girl finally broke up with her friend.
What’s even more ridiculous is that before this, the friend gave the girl’s parents a bride price and even held an engagement party. At that time, all relatives and friends of both parties were present to witness the marriage.
After the breakup, the girl did not return her friend’s 300,000 yuan gift, nor did she take the initiative to mention it. She even directly deleted all the contact information of her friend, even those of us who were irrelevant. girls likeIt seems to have suddenly disappeared from our world.
It was a very simple marriage, but due to financial and authorship issues, it suddenly turned into a deal. Once the business fails, it seems that there is no humanity left.
Perhaps people will think that since boys don’t want to write girls’ names, then girls should do the same. But has anyone ever thought about why boys’ parents don’t like girls?
"Well-matched" marriages have always existed in our lives. , marriage will be recognized only when the conditions of the two people are almost the same. If the conditions between two people are too different, they may eventually be forced to separate.
After all, in a good marriage, there is also a life of three meals a day, and the essence of life is to maintain the balance of the marriage under a certain dual integration of material and spiritual matters.
Marriage requires the joint efforts of two people, and it also requires that the conditions of the two people are not very different. Only in this way can two people have a common voice, understand and respect each other, and with the support of these basic conditions, can a marriage be happy.
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