Looking through the recent consultation, a fan asked a controversial question. He asked, "Should we forcefully maintain a marriage for the sake of children?" To be honest, everyone has their own opinion on this issue, and I do too. There is no way to say who is right and who is wrong, so when faced with this type of issue, I can only express my own opinion.
The reason why many people choose to maintain a marriage reluctantly is so that their children can have a complete family.
However, in my opinion, you have only moved yourself, thinking that if you have wronged yourself, you can get your children's gratitude, and the children should live according to their own wishes. This result is what the children want. Or did you impose it on your child?
Once the child does not do what you want, you will ask the child aggrievedly, if it were not for you, I would have divorced and dumped the blame. Child, is it really the child who doesn’t want you to divorce? Or are you looking for a reasonable excuse for your timidity?
When parents quarrel, the child will sacrifice himself for the stability of the family. To digest these emotions that he cannot handle, the child will blame himself for his incompetence, attribute the reason for his parents' quarrel to his own problems, cause self-attack, and be unable to accept his own emotions, thus forming psychological trauma. Children's problems are sometimes family problems. When there is a problem in the family system, it will be reflected on the child.
Therefore, after parents quarrel in front of their children, they must tell their children why you quarreled, and the reason for the quarrel is There is no relationship with the child, and the child will grow up happily in the position of a child instead of trying to comfort adults.
What you think gives your child a complete home may not be what your child wants. The best education for your child is parental love. You can see what love and respect are in your parents, even if It's not terrible if parents quarrel. They should explain it clearly to their children, so that they can naturally grow up without worries.
The above is my opinion on the question of should we maintain a marriage for the sake of our children? If you don’t like it, don’t comment.
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