Nuannan is a word that describes a boy who is gentle, considerate and caring towards girls. However, I don’t know since when, the warm man has been equated with the spare tire. Everyone thinks that the warm man is the spare tire, but in fact, those who have changed from the warm man to the spare tire are just warm in the wrong way. , today I am here to rectify the name of warm men!
In order to show their warm side, many boys use every opportunity to express their concern for girls, ranging from buying clothes and bags to small ones. When I order takeout and say good morning and good night on time, I wish I knew everything I ate three times a day. Even with such meticulous care, girls still ignore him. Have you ever thought about whether the things you do can be done by another person? You are too replaceable, so you accidentally It becomes a "spare tire".
Of course, this is not intended to prick the hearts of warm men. I just want everyone to recognize the reality. Next, I will tell you how real "warm men" win the hearts of girls. of.
1. Start with the details
Many boys in love often feel angry at girls for no reason. Very helpless. For example:
Girl: You go play ball with your friends, I’m fine at home alone.
Male: Really? Then I’ll go.
Female: Well, go ahead.
Return from playing ball.
Male: Honey, what do you want to eat tonight?
Female:. . .
Male: What’s wrong?
Female: . . .
The ending of this matter is that the girl keeps ignoring the boy, but the boy can’t figure out what’s wrong with her.
In fact, what made the girl angry was that the boy really didn't accompany her to play ball with his brothers. You think she is fine, but in fact she has already imagined a movie in her mind during the day she was alone.
"Huh, you go when I tell you to go. It's hard to take a vacation, but you still let me stay at home alone and go out to be happy."
"Let you Go ahead and run away like crazy. You don’t want to be with me that much. It seems like you’ve wanted to get rid of me and go out to play for a long time, right?”
“You can’t even listen to the sarcastic things I say. Come out, you don’t understand me at all.”
Did you see? Even with a word or an expression, a girl can understand what you are thinking.
You say this is called death? That’s because you don’t understand girls very well. Girls are very sensitive, and they can sense too many things from boys' attitudes.
Some boys think that as long as they are willing to spend money for girls, girls will like them.
Don’t all girls like holidays and gifts? I will give them to you.Well, I don’t believe you can’t be impressed by 999 roses, the latest bags, and candlelight dinners at top restaurants.
Is it great to have money? It is indeed amazing.
But what if there is another one who is richer than you?
So, don’t be superstitious about girls who are rich and can’t be chased. You have to put in effort to chase girls. In fact, little details can make you different from others.
Even if you only send a rose, you can also write a letter with heart to express your feelings.
Even if you only give a pack of snacks, she will be very happy if you can remember whether she likes spicy food or sweet food.
Even if it’s just a small restaurant on the roadside, you can remember her favorite dish better than anything else.
Love is a matter of success and failure.
When a girl wears high heels and bruises her feet, you casually take out a band-aid from your bag; take the initiative to pull up a chair for her when eating; silently let the girl move to the side of the road when taking a walk.
Although most boys are careless, if you can notice the small details that others cannot notice, you can capture the heart of girls at critical moments.
2. Start from the heart
(1) Listen to her thoughts.
Don’t know how to speak? Then listen more. Too eloquent? Then speak less and listen to what she has to say.
In short, when two people get along, there is always nothing wrong with listening more.
In fact, girls’ love sometimes needs a start button. Many times their original intention is not to “make it”, but boys can’t always get what they want, so they get angry because they It doesn't appear from your performance that you care at all.
If you can ask her for her thoughts and opinions when things happen, and be willing to listen to her when she is unhappy, you can actually have a general understanding of the way she thinks about problems and the things she cares about. That's why the two of them have a tacit understanding after being together for a long time.
Will any boy think, why should I listen to her? Wouldn’t she understand me?
A warm man would not think so.
Actually, if you think about it carefully, if the other person is happy, won’t he stop “making love” to you? This is the best of both worlds!
(2) Care about her feelings
Caring about her does not mean asking her "Have you eaten?" "Is it cold?" "Is she hungry?" It would be boring to say this every day, and it is not a routine greeting from a little robot.
You have to be able to discover problems from daily communication and provide heart-warming solutions in time. Even if there is no way, we can alsoChat with her to resolve her worries.
Many times, you have to see through the appearance to see the essence.
For example, she usually goes to bed before eleven o'clock, but suddenly she posted a message on Moments early this morning. Is she unhappy about something? Or, she is usually quite lively and cheerful. , suddenly became silent, did something happen?
In fact, sometimes your greetings may not solve any substantive problems, but at least your companionship and care let the other party know. , you are concerned about her feelings, and you take her affairs to heart.
This kind of warmth is inadvertent and very heartfelt, rather than a vain greeting or simply turning a blind eye to indifference.
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