. Before the Chinese New Year, my nephew told me: I recently fell in love with a girl. During the final exam, that girl and I reviewed together every day, had meals together, and even reserved seats. Others thought we were the same person. Yes, I mustered up the courage to confess to her. This was the first time I confessed to a girl. She said that we could go on slowly and step by step. I said that I would give her time.
The winter vacation started, and I once again summoned up the courage to ask her how she was thinking about it. She said she hoped we could be friends. I was very sad, but I also thought about it. I said to her "I will wait for her", but guess what, just yesterday, she told me that she just got a boyfriend, and then she said that she hopes we can still be friends like before, and she hopes to let go of this, but I He is a man who values ??feelings, how can he let go so easily?
Originally, she rejected me and I accepted it. I thought I could wait for her, but I didn’t expect that she would actually be with a boy I had only known for a short time. I really felt an indescribable feeling when he rejected me when he fell in love! Suddenly I felt so stupid and felt like I was cheated. I couldn't sleep last night. I didn't know who to talk to about these things. I really didn't know how to get along with such a friend. I get so angry when I think about them being together now, and when I go back to school, how will I face my classmates? They all think we are a couple! I am a face-saving person, and I really don’t know what to do. .
What I want to say is, first of all, you should feel lucky, that is, it is the winter vacation now, and you have a whole winter vacation and a Spring Festival. It's time to lick your wounds. If you feel that you are seriously injured, one winter vacation is enough. We don't need to spend the first half of the year to heal, right? This is just a love that has not yet begun.
Actually, I think this is the case. On the one hand, I understand your feelings. You like someone, but now she likes someone else. This must be uncomfortable, but on the other hand, since it has not In the beginning, it’s not that, it doesn’t have to be such a pity. I have to correct you first, that is, you think you are a face-saving person, but after school starts, you will feel embarrassed when faced with other people’s questions. But in this matter Don't you think you are a little too selfish? Didn't that girl promise you just to help you and not lose face in front of others? This kind of thinking is too childish and naive, right? If that's the case, actually that girl doesn't It might make sense to choose you, because you really seem a little bit naive.
In this matter, there is nothing wrong with her. She has never deceived your feelings, nor has she accepted you. She even hopes to continue her friendship with you. I think men can be more relaxed, that is, bless her and wish them happiness!
Another point is that many boys often make mistakes, or not only boys, but also many girls. When rejected by the other party, an attitude they often adopt is: I can wait for you. You know, I can wait for you. You can interpret it in a very romantic way, that is, "Wow! This person is so determined!" Right, so camaraderie. But on the other hand, this sentence can also be understood as me saying rejection to you. My saying rejection means that I refuse to accept the reality that you reject me, so I will continue to wait. Continuing to wait means that I will continue to pursue you. If you continue, you still have to, if possible, acknowledge me. In fact, after rejection, the best way is to say "Oh, well, I wish you good luck and happiness!" and then walk away, and then To start a new relationship. In most cases where you are rejected, waiting there won't yield any results.
Rejection means rejection. You cannot regard rejection as non-rejection, but as the motivation to continue my relationship, then , rejection loses the meaning of rejection! I asked some friends, including boys and girls, you know, when they reject someone, they just want to end it, because he has his own life, and at this time, the other person said that I When I have to wait for you, I have to wait for you firmly, I can wait for you for a few years, he doesn’t feel happy, except for those who are particularly selfish and think, "Ah! Anyway, I started a relationship here, and there is someone there for me." Impressed by the charm, you are still waiting for me there, silly, oh, I am so charming!" There are very few people like this, cold-blooded, most people are not willing to worry about others, so when they hear that you are there When waiting for him, he will feel a kind of pressure, and even some sensitive friends will feel that they are uncomfortable and have a feeling of being harassed.
"I can't say anything anymore, why are you still waiting there?" Right? That's right... Of course, saying this may seriously hurt the hearts of some infatuated friends, but in order to preserve their Soul, I'd better say it straight.
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