Many boys think that the only criteria for girls to find a partner are beauty and money, but the facts prove that this is not the case. Think about it, even if nine out of ten people value your face, there is still one who doesn’t value you that much. Today, the editor will tell you about the five major criteria for girls to find a partner, and see how many of them you meet.
1. Personality
People often say that personality determines whether two people can be together. The most important criterion together. How important is it?
Character determines destiny. Whether two people can share the same fate depends on whether your personalities are compatible.
In addition, no matter whether your personality is active or quiet, it is important to maintain a positive and optimistic attitude.
For example, even if you quarrel, you will not break up easily; even if there is a conflict, you will actively find a way to solve it; even if life is not going well, you will be willing to bear it with the other person.
In short, have confidence in yourself, the other person, and your relationship, and don’t give up easily. This is the most basic and important attitude in a relationship.
2. Self-motivation
When it comes to self-motivation, it will be unconsciously linked to financial ability. There is nothing wrong with it. The ambition to be motivated is indeed reflected in the economic level to a certain extent.
But that’s not entirely true, because a motivated person may not have a lot of money right now, but if he has the ambition to make more money and takes practical actions for it, then he is a reliable person. people.
Rather than what some boys think: When girls talk about being motivated, doesn’t it mean that boys need to earn a lot of money? In the final analysis, they still worship money.
Everyone sees money as a matter of fact, and there is absolutely no need to use it as a standard to measure whether a girl is material or not.
Don’t talk about others, just ask yourself, do you like life without money?
3. Responsibility
Why are there more and more bad men and bad women? Because the cost is low, there is no price, and of course happiness comes first.
It is this kind of thinking that has eroded the hearts of contemporary young people, so sense of responsibility becomes more and more important in choosing a spouse.
For girls, a boy’s sense of responsibility is an important trait that affects whether your relationship can be long-lasting and healthy.
After all, most people still want a stable relationship, not a quick love affair.
So, when pursuing girls, boys must learn to show their sense of responsibility.
It is not as macroscopic as imagined, but is actually reflected in many details of life. For example:
First, do what you promised. Many people speak louder than actions, this timeThe other party may remind you twice, but if it happens more times, she will silently give you a bad review in her heart.
Second, do not be ambiguous with other people of the opposite sex. This matter cannot be expressed by saying "I will only be good to you". It must be expressed with actual actions. Even if other girls take the initiative to approach you, you must know how to keep your distance.
Third, don’t avoid problems. The words that girls hate the most from boys are "I can't help it if you insist on thinking that way", "It's up to you", "I can't do it, you can do it". If there is a problem, just solve it, and if there is a conflict, just communicate. It will appear particularly cowardly and incompetent.
In fact, responsibility is not just a matter of saying a few sweet words to express loyalty. After getting along for a long time, your actions are the best proof.
4. Family situation
In fact, the factor of family is quite complicated. It is not just about looking at What is the economic condition of the family? We also need to consider various issues such as education, family of origin, and so on.
There is a saying that goes like this: Some people will be cured by childhood throughout their lives, but some people need to spend their whole lives curing childhood.
Although some people have relatively good family economic conditions, their parents have had a bad relationship since childhood, which has left a deep shadow in their hearts, making them psychologically sensitive and fragile, and they do not have enough confidence in intimate relationships.
But there are also some people who, precisely because they have seen all the conflicts between their parents, secretly make up their minds to be a different person from their father in the future and be better to their partners.
So when they are looking for a partner, they know exactly what kind of person they are looking for, and they know how to care about the other person.
We cannot change many problems in our original families, but if we want to catch the girl we like, boys should learn to show their positive side.
For example, even a single-parent family can be lively, cheerful, happy and optimistic; although the family is not rich enough, the relationship between parents is very good, and the family atmosphere is very happy; although the relationship between parents is not very good, you learn from Lesson learned, I have developed a considerate and gentle character since I was a child, and I know how to pamper my significant other.
When a girl senses the positive energy in you, many problems in the family of origin will not actually become obstacles. Even girls are willing to take the initiative to get close to you to heal the fragility in your heart.
5. Have a skill
Girls are really irresistible to talented boys, and so can you. You know, girls all have a strong admiration mentality. Excellent people will always make them feel admired.
However, most of us are ordinary people, living a life of working as a social worker between home and company every day. We also want to play games and watch TV series to relax when we have some time.
Talent? Is that possible?The skills of money people.
Hmm. . . Although, we still have to have some hobbies. Otherwise, if we play this game forever and watch the TV series until the fuel is exhausted, what will we gain?
In addition to not being able to exchange money, the boredom and emptiness will be increased, and it will also be delayed. Let's find someone.
So, if you still have some time after work, can you allocate some of your time playing games and watching TV series to cultivating hobbies?
First think about what you are interested in. Interested in, or areas where you have some talent that you have not been able to develop due to various reasons.
It doesn’t mean that you must be able to play difficult things like piano and violin. Even cooking, if you can have a few good skills, you will be very attractive to girls.
There are so many online learning resources now. In fact, as long as you want to learn, it is still very convenient.
So don’t say things like “I like an excellent girl, but I don’t know anything and I feel like I’m not good enough for her” in the future.
If we want a good girl, we have to become better ourselves, right?
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