People do not necessarily have to get married. In reality, there are also many non-marriage advocates who feel that marriage is meaningless. In fact, since marriage exists, it still has its own meaning. Why did that person get married?
1. Social needs
In terms of life, men and women are highly efficient in matching, and men and women are naturally different They are complementary in many aspects, and coupled with social needs, it has become a convention for everyone to get married when they reach age. Many people in the past didn't have this concept at all, and they didn't even ask why they got married, so they just got married.
Secondly, in terms of stability, in order to ensure the certainty of parenthood, men also tend to find a conservative girl to form a family and have their own children for the sake of inheritance.
The structure of two people loving each other is more stable than that of three or more people. Having children in the future means that two people have a common goal of investment and struggle.
Again, let’s jointly resist risks and social pressure.
Let me give you a few examples. For example, if there is an emergency or special situation between the two of you that needs to be dealt with, then the other person is at least the one who in a social sense can decide whether you should be extubated when you are sick. 'The closest one'.
For another example, if you are suddenly unemployed now and there is someone around you who has a salary that can support you to find a job, it will probably be longer than the time you can maintain your life alone.
For another example, if you continue to use some money to make up for the previous overdraft, it may not be easy to borrow from everyone around you, but the savings between husband and wife and the support of the family behind you are likely to be more valuable than a person and a family. There is a better way.
2. Physiological needs
In fact, it is common for men to have genetic anxiety. Because of the selfishness of genes. Men are not like women. Basically, they know that their children are theirs, but men cannot.
Therefore, men have biological and social demands for children, and girls have various physical inconveniences and uncertainties during the childbirth process. Therefore, one party provides support and the other provides reproduction.
Moreover, from a physiological perspective, being married before can provide a stable and safe sex life. After all, marriage was one of the few options at that time when desire was strong, but it is different now. So to some extent it also greatly weakens the attractiveness of entering marriage in this regard.
But let’s put it another way. From a safety perspective, sex life within marriage may be long and boring, but it will be safer than the outside world. The guarantee of long-term stable sex can guarantee social stability and order from the side. Then everyone divides work and cooperates, and desires and struggles have somewhere to deal with.
Society needs people, so society will encourage marriageGive birth to children.
3. Emotional needs
On the one hand, it is to find someone to help each other, support each other, and make progress together. There is something to rely on.
On the other hand, there is mutual dependence, psychological stability, and any problems can be shared and solved with each other.
After all, when each of us was young, we called our friends to get together. We are generally single and available at any time. My parents are healthy and have a home to go back to. What if you wait until you are older?
You can choose to get married or not to get married, but the underlying logic of both marriage and non-marriage is: demand.
Whether it is personal needs or social needs.
In the end, I still say the same thing. The important thing about marriage is to find a suitable person who you are willing to support each other with, who is willing to give, and who tolerates and considers each other.
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