Many boys cannot pursue girls, not because of their own bad conditions, but because of their personality. Below I will tell you about the types of boys who cannot find girlfriends and how to change such personalities.
1. Which types of boys cannot find girlfriends
1. Lack of action, as long as the results< /h3>
Nowadays, many boys say that it is too difficult to find a girlfriend. Today’s girls are too realistic and have too high requirements. This is a typical example of only focusing on the result and not caring about the process. They only focus on the result of finding a girlfriend, but do not think about how to find it. , what have you done in this process?
If girls have high requirements, such as being sunny, handsome, wealthy, and considerate, have you tried to meet such requirements?
Especially some boys who play games all day long and turn over in bed while saying that this girl is very demanding.
If you want to fall in love, you can only have a chance to develop by making contact first. If there are no conditions for contact, you must also create conditions for contact. Otherwise, you are destined to never find a girlfriend.
2. When you encounter problems, you either rely on them or you avoid them
When it comes to mama’s boys, fighting is no stranger to them. Let alone girls, boys also avoid such an image. .
In the process of dating, when a girl is dating a mama boy, no matter what the problem is, the mama boy can use me to go back and discuss it with my mother to end it.
Some boys may not be mama’s boys, but the core of their problem-solving may be their teachers, sisters or others. In short, this core can never be themselves.
When his core support fails, the problems he encounters cannot be solved, and he will subconsciously escape, turning from following the rules into a mess, because he himself does not have the ability to solve problems. With such a personality, which girl would be willing to fall in love with you?
2. How to change these personalities
If you want to get rid of these character shortcomings that isolate you from girls, in the final analysis, you need to strengthen your ability to solve problems independently, from relying on the outside world to building your own core strength. Regarding this problem, there are three suggestions:
1. Be fully mentally prepared
When encountering a problem, you must first be calm and composed. A clear understanding is a prerequisite for solving the problem. In the process of chasing girls, some boys feel that their conditions are not good, with average personality, average work, average appearance, average family, and average abilities, so they set many restrictions for themselves. It is true that these conditions may become obstacles for you to pursue girls, but if you fall into this endless loop of thinking, your emotional core will be broken. Laziness came to cause trouble, and in the end I could only say that no girl would like me like this, so I wouldn’t chase her. It was too troublesome, so I turned into a happy girl again.Single dog.
But everyone always has their shining points. When recognizing the pros and cons, you must also analyze the pros and cons. Maybe you are considerate and gentle, maybe you are patient. Discover your own shining points, enhance your self-confidence, add energy to yourself, establish your own thinking framework, and give yourself a sense of inner strength.
2. Take action
No matter how good the idea is, it is nothing if not put into practice. No matter how powerful Jack Ma is, he still needs a team to execute for him and open up new territories for him in order to build today's business empire. So, don’t be afraid of failure, execute your ideas, there is no shame even if you fail, because you can gain a lot of experience. To act is actually to fight against one's inertia and emotions. When you are truly devoted to something, action will in turn affect your thinking and emotions.
When emotions and thinking feel the benefits brought by actions, negative emotions will run away in despair, and the sense of inner strength will be enhanced. When a person's heart is strong, he will naturally be calm in dealing with things and his luck will be completely transformed.
3. Learn to reflect
Review is also very important. After an incident has passed, you must know how to reflect. The so-called reflection is to review a matter and recall whether the decision you made was correct, whether it was made impulsively, suggested by others, or made by yourself after thinking.
Only by constant reflection can we constantly discover our own problems. Only such boys will be more attractive and attract the attention of girls.
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