I believe many boys have heard this sentence, "As long as you are good enough, someone will like you." In fact, there is another half of this sentence: "If you want to be liked by others, you must also have the ability to please them. ”, and a concept involved here is “emotional value”.
What is emotional value?
Let’s put it this way, do you have the kind of friend around you who makes you feel particularly happy to be with him and likes to play with him? ?
We say that this kind of person who can bring you a lot of positive emotions has high emotional value. So how do you become a person with "high emotional value" and successfully make the girl you like fall in love with you?
1. Keep it up Positive mentality
We all have a feeling that when we are with people with optimistic personalities, we will be infected and become happy, but when we are with people with pessimistic personalities, we will feel depressed.
Therefore, to be a person with high emotional value, you must first maintain a positive attitude and learn to control negative emotions.
For example, when you want to lose your temper, calm down for 30 seconds and think about why;
Don’t blame yourself if you can’t hold it back occasionally, but you must learn to reflect. , slowly develop the ability to stabilize emotions;
If you can’t control yourself, find someone to supervise and remind you.
In addition, making more friends with people with a positive attitude will also have a positive impact on us.
I have to say that if you want to be a good partner for the other person, becoming a better yourself is indeed a prerequisite.
2. There is a degree of push and pull
When it comes to push and pull, some friends will compare it with playing hard to get. By the way, these two concepts are completely different.
The so-called playing hard to get means that you clearly like someone, but you flirt with them, whet the other person's appetite and then ignore them, deliberately attracting the other person to take the initiative.
But girls are not stupid. This will only make them feel hot and cold, insecure, and farther and farther away from you.
But what we call push and pull means that boys should not take the initiative blindly, but should also learn to stop and look at girls' attitudes occasionally.
In fact, when we say licking dogs and licking dogs, we are not criticizing boys for taking the initiative, but some boys are very happy when they see good feedback from girls and chase them even more energetically.
But once I saw that the girl had no feedback, my mentality collapsed and I had no motivation to do anything.
What does this mean? It means that your emotions are affected by girls. This is the fundamental reason why you become a licker.
And the boy that a girl likes must not be the one who hangs around her all day long. You must haveYour own life and arrangements, with your own rhythm and charm.
So take the initiative when it’s time to take the initiative, and you can take it easy. If a girl likes you, she won’t remain indifferent.
When a girl takes the initiative to show her kindness, she should also treat her positively. This is the correct attitude.
3. Improve your sense of humor
As the saying goes, beautiful skins are all the same, but interesting souls are unique. . Many boys in life are not handsome, but because of their lively and humorous personalities, the girls around them are also young and old.
There is no girl who doesn’t like humorous boys, because life that is originally dull will become colorful when being with interesting people.
Therefore, knowing how to create joy in life will also improve a person's emotional value.
Even if you are not a humorous person, your abilities can be improved through learning.
Think about it, under normal circumstances, what do the humorous people around you have in common?
For example, relaxation, clever shifting of emphasis, and good use of jokes.
First of all, don’t deliberately make yourself appear humorous, and relax your mind so that you can easily observe the other person’s emotions and find a suitable breakthrough point.
Secondly, don’t just agree with what others say. Changing the focus in a timely manner will make you appear more humorous.
4. Anchoring effect
When I was in school, there was a girl in our class who was lively and outgoing. , getting along well with the boys and girls in the class, and everyone likes her very much.
When she got into a good chat with others, she especially liked to give them nicknames. Over time, these nicknames spread.
To this day, every time I talk about the cute nicknames of my classmates, I can think of her.
This is actually establishing a kind of anchor.
Look, you can learn this trick.
Come up with an exclusive title that you give her, how ambiguous it is, and you will quickly establish a connection with the girl.
For example, every time you meet or chat, just use your nickname. This will make the atmosphere more relaxed and make girls remember you deeply.
Of course, one thing to note is to observe the girl’s acceptance. If people don't like it, don't make jokes like this, otherwise it will make them less favorable.
In addition to giving nicknames, there are actually many ways to establish anchors. For example, let’s do something together that she has never done before, and give her an exclusive customized gift...
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