Comforting a girl seems simple but difficult to do. After all, most boys can only know that a girl is unhappy, but they don’t know what they can do. After trying to comfort a girl for a long time, it is of no use at all. Here I will teach you how to comfort a girl. the correct way.
How to comfort a girl when she is unhappy?
1. Ask for guidance and listen patiently
If a girl is unhappy but you don’t know it happened When and how to do it? Of course you have to ask why, but many boys fall over at this very step. Because girls do come to you to seek comfort, but their emotions go faster than their rationality at this time. They just express their sadness and may not have thought about giving you everything they have. If you instantly enter a comforting state and ask directly in a hurry, it will make her feel more relieved. At this time, the girl may reply to you as if she has changed into a different person, "It's nothing, forget it, I don't want to talk about it."
In fact, just changing the way of expression can produce a completely different effect. When getting along with girls, you must transform goal-oriented thinking into process-oriented. The focus of girls is to establish feelings with him. Connect instead of directly solving the problem. Of course, when asking for guidance, you must also pay attention to boundaries and avoid touching the other party's privacy issues. If a girl doesn't want to tell you what happened, don't rush to ask. Just express your concern for her and let her subconsciously know that you are always there.
2. Positive care and empathy
When girls express their unhappiness to us, many Boys can't wait to show their tenderness and considerateness, but they forget that girls are the protagonists of this conversation. Therefore, when a girl is talking, we try not to interrupt her. This is not a good time for you to express your opinion. You just need to listen patiently and echo it when appropriate.
Some boys can win the favor of girls because they know how to listen. In this process, although they cannot fully understand, they must also affirm the girls’ emotions. We can tell girls that they are sad and sad. Normal emotions, instead of telling the girl what she did wrong.
3. Whether right or wrong, express comfort
When the girl has finished asking all the questions, it has been done After an all-round talk, her emotions have been greatly vented, and she is calmer than when she first came to you. At this stage, our room for development is relatively large, but the core is still paying attention to girls. Feelings, do not discuss right or wrong, and do not give intermediate suggestions. You can express your willingness to provide help to the other party, but don’t take it for granted that you go directly to the girl for help and advice, which will show off.Very arrogant, and easily taken advantage of by some green tea girls with ulterior motives. What you have to do is to dilute the negative emotions of girls and improve your sense of presence.
For example, when she is almost adjusted, you can ask to meet her, tell her "Let's relax", and then take the girl to do something she likes, such as going to the park. , watch movies, eat and drink desserts.
If the girl’s mood is still unstable, you can add physical movements to soothe her mood, such as hugging or hugging her shoulders. If the two of you are not close enough, you can also choose to pat her arms instead. Or shoulders. In the process, making the girl feel at ease and happy will not only reflect your value, but also allow her to become closer to you emotionally.
Of course, some girls need companionship, and some girls need to calm down. Different incidents have different coping methods. Many times, for girls, silent companionship is more useful than speaking the truth, and a hug is worth a thousand words. Thousands of words make my heart grow fonder. If you want comfort to work, you need to feel it with a sincere heart.
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