If you observe carefully, you will find that there are fewer and fewer boys chasing girls around you. Even if there are a few boys chasing girls, they will simply pursue them and give up in time if there is no sign of success. So why don’t boys chase girls nowadays? Is it good or bad?
1. Chasing girls was really useful in the past
In fact, "chasing girls" itself is a desperate pursuit that lags behind the current era. Think about it, when you can't get a girl, will your elders tell you over and over again, "Be nice to the girl", "Be sincere" and "Keep pursuing". Do you know why?
Because this method is indeed effective for that generation of people. At that time, the traffic was congested and the Internet was not developed. There were only a few young people of the right age around, and there were not many choices. The meat rotted in the pot. At that time, material resources were also scarce, so men could gain a lot from "giving her things" and "being nice to her."
Moreover, in that era, men’s persistent pursuit of goodwill would be praised by public opinion, which was a manifestation of sincerity and single-mindedness. If you pursue him for a long time and the girl remains indifferent and refuses to accept it, then public opinion will begin to put pressure on you. The seventh aunt and the eighth aunt began to say to the girl, "How good he is to you", "He likes you so much", "He is a very good person", "You will definitely live a good life with him".
The gossips around her began to discuss among themselves, "Why is this girl so bad? Maybe there is something else going on" and "This guy is so pitiful and it's not easy." The circle was so big at that time, and the power of society was no less powerful than it is now. How could a little girl withstand the pressure of public opinion? Once word spread, other men basically stopped setting foot.
Do you know what "good women are afraid of stalking men" means? If you keep pestering her for a long time, if she doesn't marry you, no one else will dare to marry you either.
2. It’s useless to chase girls now
What about now? There are high-speed trains and planes for transportation, so it is actually easy to meet each other no matter how far apart we are. network? Even if we are not together face to face, we can contact you at any time. substance? Who needs your food now? If you want to spend money, at least get the whole package, right? public opinion? The boxer can beat the shit out of you first, and then let you wipe it clean with a piece of paper.
Do you understand? Market transactions emphasize a balance between supply and demand. If the demand side is gone, what's the point of supplying desperately? No matter how shamelessly you chase girls, you will act like a licking dog if you prepare your own bones. Nice girls think you're disgusting and annoying, and "baby-groomers" are waiting to dig into your wallet.
You have no chance of winning either way.
Love requires both parties to rush towards each other. What can be achieved only by chasing. To endure it is to be moved. To put it bluntly, how many masters can this "moving" thing have? If you meet someone who has "feelings", he will blow you up with one shot.
Summary: When a boy likes a girl, he should not give to the other party unconditionally. Sometimes he also needs a certain return or response from the other party. If the other party does not respond or repay, then try to exit as early as possible. Because I always give unilaterally and selflessly without asking for anything in return, sometimes I am easily injured. After the wounds are scarred, I may become mature and strong, but at the same time, my certain patience or enthusiasm will be recognized later when I really meet someone who is worthy of being praised by me. You may become numb when you love someone. So sometimes you should save your good things, don't let them become cheap, and use your good things in the future on good people who deserve to be treated well and cherish themselves.
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