After many boys fail to pursue girls, they never think about what the problem is. Instead, they blame it on some external factors to comfort themselves, thus forming a cycle of repeated defeats and repeated defeats. What should boys who always fail to chase girls do?
Boys who always fail to chase girls, ask yourself the following 4 questions, maybe you can find someone you like and is suitable for you object.
1. What characteristics do the people you like have in common?
Now, put down your phone and think about it carefully. From childhood to adulthood, whether you have a crush or have been together, what type of girls do you like? Do they have common characteristics? What are they in common?
For example, some boys like girls with a gentle personality and are not in a good mood. When you are good, you can be by your side and comfort yourself.
Some boys prefer free and easy girls who can play and make trouble with them.
There are also some boys who like girls who are independent, self-reliant and have distinctive personalities, which can stimulate their innate desire to conquer.
Although everyone likes different types, whenever you meet this kind of girl, you can't help but be attracted. That is the little obsession in your heart for your partner. Only such girls can truly make you fall in love at first sight.
2. What is the reason why the other party rejected you?
Why did you reject the girl you were pursuing? You?
You admire her lively, cheerful and carefree personality, but she thinks you are silent, boring and unable to express yourself?
You like to use actions to prove your love, but she thinks you Do you not understand her inner thoughts at all?
Or maybe you just have very different living habits and find it difficult to adapt to each other?
Happy relationships have their own sweetness, and failure There are thousands of emotional reasons.
But no matter what, after getting along, you should be able to feel that the reason why you can't be together may not be because you don't like it, but because you are not suitable.
So what kind of girl are you suitable for? What kind of girls do you like, and what kind of boys do you like?
In fact, you can find a lot of evidence in the experience of failure, which you need Experience it carefully.
3. Is it possible to change? How to overcome psychological barriers?
Of course, I want to We have not given up for many years, and we just like this genre, which shows that we are still reluctant to give up.
Nothing wrong! No matter what happens, we can’t give up easily, let alone make do with the person we like, right?
So what, have you thought about what to do?
Be firm, we cannot be blind. Since people don’t like this style of ours, can we make some adjustments?
If you still like lively and outgoing girls, can you learn how to catch their jokes and look for them? More common topics?
If you meet a girl who likes your maturity and stability, can you adapt to her gentleness and tranquility?
If she likes attentive and considerate small breasts Dog, but you are a rational and rigid programmer. Can you think about how you can add points to yourself?
For example, when she wants to buy something, just accompany her; she wants to eat. When eating, don’t talk about controlling your weight; when she is in a bad mood and loses her temper, give her a hug; when she is uncomfortable, take care of her...
Some people say that girls are Made of water, it will look like whatever container it is put into.
Sometimes they are not so determined, but just because you are good to her, she is willing to follow you to the ends of the world.
Of course, Brother Chen can’t guess what type of boy the girl in your heart likes, so here is just an example.
What I want to tell you is that if you really can’t let go of your obsession with certain characteristics of your ideal lover, you really need to think about it carefully. Is it acceptable to change for love?
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If you really want to change, you must overcome your own psychological barriers. Don't feel that you are sacrificing or trying to cater to the other person.
4. What should you do if you cannot accept changes?
Of course, not everyone is like this Strong faith. Most people may still think that since I keep getting what I want, is it because my requirements are too high?
I am so ordinary, how can I expect such an outstanding girl to like me?
Perhaps most people’s first reaction is this.
Then follow your heart.
If the differences between you make you feel entangled and painful, there is actually no need to struggle.
If this is the case for you, then try to adjust your mentality, give up some of your original standards, and get in touch with more different types of girls.
At first you may feel that there is no way to create feelings of affection or liking. Don’t worry, just start as friends.
After all, if you want to gain, you must first give up.
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