The cold war can be said to be a relationship killer. You think your silence will allow the other person to take the initiative to save you, but the other person may think so too. Then the conflict between the two people gradually deepens during the cold war, and eventually reaches an irreversible point.
From a certain perspective, if both sides of the Cold War remain silent and wait for the other party to redeem themselves, then this may also be a sign of no longer loving each other. And if the Cold War lasts If it lasts for more than two weeks, then you can really break up directly. Why do you say this?
When a couple is in a cold war, if they really The boy who loves you may be thinking:
"I am the one who takes the initiative to apologize every time and I feel very tired."
"Will it be fine after a while? Is she going to be alone?"
"Otherwise, I'd better apologize, even though I don't know what I did wrong."
"Damn it! What did I do wrong again? !??"
"If I bow my head and admit my mistake, can you also give in?"
"Auntie is here again??"
" Can you not answer the phone or reply to the text message? At least let me know what you think." "Why don't you take the opportunity to LOL?"
"How about coaxing me first? Will you do it after coaxing me? Will it make me appear nagging? If I don’t coax, will I be more angry? If I coax, what’s wrong with me?”
What a man is thinking about is the other person. No contact will make a man feel very uncomfortable and make him want to contact the other person every minute. Even if they are separated in different places, they will travel thousands of miles to find each other.
Men who don’t contact each other for more than a week or two are violating their male hormones. There is only one reason for suppressing one's own male hormones, and that is not falling in love.
Therefore, if a woman doesn’t love the other person anymore and the cold war between you lasts for more than two weeks, then you don’t even have to look for her. Just pretend that there is no such person opposite you. If the other party comes back to look for me later, this person will not be a good match.
Tell the other person to get out of here quickly. You need more time, instead of wasting time on meaningless people.
I want you to taste the years and be treated affectionately by time, and not be afraid of right and wrong and dust in this sea of ??people.
A woman is different. She may miss the other person, but will not go to the other person directly because of face. She hopes that the other person will take the initiative to find her to prove that you still love her, even if you don’t love her anymore. They pay more attention to the sense of ritual and hope that the other party will say seriously that they no longer want to be with her.
True communication requires understanding what the other person is thinking in a stress-free and relaxed environment.
Releasing goodwill is the beginning of communication. People cannot listen to anything when they are emotional.
Therefore, if a man really feels that he can’t go on, he should say it directly. Sometimes, just waiting for this sentence will waste two people’s time and energy. As long as there is no Say it clearly, even if you remain silent or ignore each other, it will give the other party a little hope and a bit of luck, making the other party think, "Our relationship is just temporarily problematic. When the other party calms down and thinks clearly, he will come back to me." .
However, people who want to break up will never come back. People who hesitate may think and reflect, and then realize that they really can’t go on and say "let's break up" frankly. < /p>
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