The relationship with a girl is like sailing against the current. If you fail to grasp the window in time to upgrade the relationship during the hot chat, then as time goes by, the girl's enthusiasm is likely to diminish, and her attitude will gradually change. Increasingly cold. So what should we do at this time?
1. Change your opening method
When chatting with a girl, as the starter of the chat, we need to proactively provide the topic, so don’t start with a question and always ask the girl what she is doing. We are asking for value from the girl and want the girl to provide the topic.
We must understand that people like to share rather than ask for nothing, so we must take the initiative to provide topics instead of relying on girls to provide topics, and replace "What are you doing" with "I guess you are not here" If you’re busy, you’re just thinking about me.” Change your opening.
Now that you have a good relationship with a girl, teasing the girl appropriately can arouse the girl's emotions very well, and the chat will become more relaxed and enjoyable.
2. Change the way you care
If you like a girl, you can’t help but want to care and care for her. Care, but the behavior of asking for help will not impress girls, and may even make girls feel bored, because girls have heard too much about caring directly, and they already feel tired, and it is easy to expose their need for girls. , is a low-value behavior.
Of course, it doesn’t mean that you can’t care about girls, but you need to change the way of caring, and replace asking girls to “go to bed early” to “go to bed quickly, otherwise I won’t show up in your dream.” Go to Create a pleasant chatting atmosphere. Even if the girl goes to bed, she will still remember you and deepen your impression of the girl.
3. Respond rationally to negative feedback from girls
When a girl does not reply to your message or has a cold attitude, many people will not be able to help but ask the girl why, and the result will only be to make the girl angry. It's even more annoying, because when you ask the girl, you are holding the girl responsible and trying to make the girl admit her mistake. Such behavior will only make the girl think that you are a petty person and have no gentlemanly manners.
Of course, many brothers will choose to tolerate and compromise. This approach is also wrong. You must understand that you will not get everything if you compromise yourself. You must learn to express your bad feelings and replace "Why don't you understand?" "I" is replaced by "We really have a tacit understanding, I didn't look for you, and you didn't look for me" to joke about this matter, and tell her in a different way that the girl ignored you.
4. Respond to girls’ inquiries with humor
Sometimes girls will take the initiative to ask us what we are doing. Many brothers talked about their current state and what they had doneI told the other party directly. In fact, this was not the answer the girl wanted.
When a girl asks you what you are doing, she is actually showing that she is bored and wants you to chat with her, rather than asking you to explain things. So when chatting with a girl, be sure not to always take it literally. , but more about understanding the girls’ subtext from their words.
So when faced with a girl’s inquiry, we can reply like this: “I’m waiting for someone to chat with me” to respond to the girl’s emotions and start a pleasant chat.
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