Many times when girls don’t accept you, it’s actually not because of your appearance, but because of your way of pursuing you, and you have committed some taboos in chasing girls. Let’s take a look at the 4 most common mistakes you make when chasing girls. Taboo.
1. Pay too much attention to girls’ mate selection standards
Many boys are following When dealing with girls, they always like to ask a question: "What kind of boys do you like?"
Why? Because they are afraid that they are not the girl's type, and they will pursue blindly and then meet with a disgrace. .
However, in the end you will find that girls often don’t mean what they say.
For example, she said she doesn’t like men who are too thin, but she may find out after a while that she is actually holding hands with a man who is thinner than you.
She said she is a beauty lover, but you find that none of the boyfriends she has ever had particularly good looks.
She said she couldn’t accept men wearing perfume and facial masks. As a result, you, as a man who sprays perfume and facial masks, still succeeded in attracting her.
In fact, most girls will not seriously select their spouses according to the conditions mentioned verbally.
When she says what kind of man she likes and what kind of man she doesn’t like, she may just be looking for an excuse to reject you. ; Or although she has set an ideal model for herself, she clearly realizes that reality cannot be so complete, so she does not strictly follow the ideal model; or it may be that once someone impresses her from other aspects, all the rules will be thrown away. Beyond the sky.
It can be seen from this that if a girl does not like you, even if you make yourself perfectly meet her requirements, she will still have other excuses to reject you. If she falls in love with you, even if you are far from what she wants, she will still be able to convince herself to accept you.
It can be said that the so-called criteria for selecting a spouse is the most unreliable screening condition for love. If you think that you must become the perfect man in her ideals to cater to her, we don't know whether you can get love, but the possibility of losing yourself is very high. Instead of catering to the other person's views on mate selection, it's better to use this energy to improve yourself.
2. Pay too much attention to your own preferences and ignore girls
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Each of us has different habits, hobbies and other personal lifestyles, but some boys take these personal factors of themselves too seriously, and even if they have a girlfriend, they still live a different life than when they were single.the difference.
For example, in the game, this woman is the biggest love rival besides her peers.
Some brothers play games when the sky is dark, the sun and the moon are dim, and their girlfriend asks them to go out to have a meal together and they can’t move. Even when his girlfriend is waiting to be intimate with him, the boy is still addicted to the game and can't extricate himself. In this way, even if your girlfriend has a boyfriend like you, it seems to be no different.
When you are alone, you can be free and do whatever you want. Even if you play games at home all day on the weekend, it doesn’t matter, because it will not affect other people. But remember, from the moment you have a girlfriend, you have someone you need to be responsible for, which means that you no longer belong to yourself alone, and part of you also belongs to your significant other.
You need to incorporate her into your life and adapt to the way two people live together. If you are in a relationship and still live according to the rhythm of being single, it means that you cannot adapt to the life of two people. Maybe your girlfriend is still yours at the moment, but if you continue to ignore her, as time goes by, your girlfriend may become someone else's.
3. Only gentle and accommodating, not able to lead
"Women are meant to be pampered." This may be the love guidance of many boys. They think that they should just be gentle and considerate to the woman they like, and dote on them as much as possible. In order to win her favor, they often do as they say. .
It is true that women all hope that their men will be thoughtful, understand themselves, and pamper themselves. But no matter how much a woman hopes that a man will be gentle, considerate, and pamper herself, it does not mean that the man she wants only needs Just be gentle and delicate. They also hope that their man will be an independent and courageous man.
If you only have gentleness and no hardness, you will inevitably become soft and weak. Can she rely on a weak man for a long time?
You can follow her in life. Ni Ni Wai Wai Wai Wai, you should be able to dote on her emotionally, but in terms of actions and decision-making on some events, you should be the one to make the strongest decisions, instead of her having to do everything she wants.
4. Feelings are an exchange of values. Only with multiple values ??will you have an advantage.
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The relationship between men and women is nothing more than the characteristics I like in you and the characteristics you like in me. The things we like about each other include each other’s appearance, finances Conditions, charisma, etc. are all part of the value.
This sentence may seem a bit like a naked profit concept, but think about it, if a girlNot only is she unattractive (low reproductive value), but she is also penniless (has no survival value), and even has a bad temper (no emotional value anymore). Will you fall in love with her? So the essence of love is nothing more than that. Even so, the more types of value you can provide to someone, the easier it will be for her to fall in love with you.
This is why when we describe a person with good conditions, we will say that he is tall, rich and handsome, and she is white, rich and beautiful, instead of just emphasizing that he is a rich man and she is a beauty. It is very difficult to expect a girl to fall in love with you just because you are handsome or because you are rich. We can only strengthen ourselves in all aspects, instead of being complacent and stopping moving forward when we see one advantage.
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