What does sense of need mean? When chasing a girl, your sense of need is really a double-edged sword. If your sense of need is low, the girl will not know that you like her at all. She will treat you as a transparent person and an ordinary friend. If your sense of need is high, she will not know that you like her. From a girl's perspective, you are the one in the bag and there is no need to put in any more energy, so they will naturally lose interest in you. Only when you can control your sense of need and keep the relationship balanced, girls will care more about you and pay more to you. So how do you balance your needs when pursuing a girl? Let’s analyze this problem for everyone.
How to balance the sense of need when chasing a girl
It’s actually very simple to balance the sense of need when chasing a girl. Just keep it equal, or make your need lower than the girl’s need for you. That’s it. It can be divided into the following three points:
The first point is active frequency equivalence
That is to say, the frequency with which you take the initiative to chat with girls must be directly proportional to the frequency with which girls come to talk to you. You can take the initiative slightly more often, but you must not take the initiative all the time. The frequency of taking the initiative also represents your sense of need. If you are too proactive, your sense of need will be exposed too much. If you are never proactive, girls will not be able to get used to your presence, and you may not even have a chance to pursue girls.
Second point, the response frequency is equal
That is to say, when you send a message to a girl, whether it is the length of the message or the reply time, you should try to be consistent with the frequency of the girl’s reply. Too much Taking the initiative to chat will inevitably reveal too much neediness. If a girl sends one sentence and you reply with five or six sentences, the girl will wonder if this person wants to flirt with me, and she will be a little wary of you. If a girl replies with two or three sentences, and you only have one short sentence, and the number of words is pitiful, the girl will feel that you don't care, and the girl will not take the initiative to chat with you next time.
The third point is to keep the status consistent
That is to say, what status do girls regard you as? What identity do you want to regard as a girl? If a girl only treats you as a friend and you treat her as a potential girlfriend and treats her like prey, once the girl does not restore your confidence, your mentality will change and you will become very worried about gains and losses, and you will be afraid that she will be with someone else. Together.
On the contrary, the girl has a crush on you and regards you as her future boyfriend, but you regard the girl as your friend, cannot understand the girl’s hints, and miss many opportunities in vain. If a girl treats you as a friend, you should also treat her as a friend. If a girl treats you as a potential boyfriend, you should also treat her as a potential girlfriend. At this time, you will find that the girl does not reply to your messages in time or talk to you. Good morning and good night are all normal things. You will also understand the hints and little emotions of girls. This is the role of the sense of need. If you use it well, it is a sharp sword. You can chase girls with overwhelming force. If you don't know how to use it, you will become the target of your pursuit. A stumbling block for girls.
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