Many boys don’t know how to get close to girls who they are not familiar with but have a crush on, so they can only stay in the crush stage. In fact, chatting is the way to get closer to these girls who don’t have so many opportunities to contact them. The most convenient and effective way. So how should you chat with a girl you like but don’t know well?
1. Comfort your emotions
< p> The helping hand extended to the other person when he is at his lowest point is always particularly easy to remember. When you see or sense that the other person is in a bad mood through social media, take the initiative to show concern.Of course, comfort is okay, but how can you comfort without appearing too strong and being disgusted by the other party?
Very good, having this awareness shows that you are a rational person. . Then the plan I’m going to talk about below is very suitable for you.
For example:
Male: When I’m unhappy, I often go to the gym alone to run or lift weights, and it’s good to sweat.
(Don’t ask "Are you there?", usually nothing unexpected happens, and you will be there for decades to come. Especially if you have just posted on Moments. Just start the topic at this time.)
Female: ??(Your sudden words made her a little confused, but it successfully caught her attention.)
Male: I just saw the copywriting of your circle of friends, although I don’t know what happened to you. , but I hope you can be happier.
Female: Thank you. However, sometimes the reason why we hope is because it is difficult to achieve, right?
Male: Then let me share with you a method that can be achieved.
Female: What method?
Male: Pour your unhappiness on me. That way you will be less unhappy.
Female: Hahaha, you are so interesting. I think your suggestion of sweating through exercise is more reliable.
(It’s normal for girls to be reluctant to share at first. But being willing to accept your suggestions is a good start.)
Male: Haha, yes, you can give it a try.
Female: Thank you, I feel much more cheerful now.
2. Common hobbies
Two strangers met at a party, and they drank and drank. , discovered that the other party and myself were actually traveling together, and we were speechless at first, but suddenly there were many topics to talk about.
In fact, this reflects the importance of common topics.
When you are dating a girl, if you don’t know what to say, try to discover the other person’s hobbies, habits, etc., and find what you have in common.
When you find that you have common hobbies, the topic will naturally arise.
For example:
Male: So you can also play the piano.
Female: Yes, I have been studying for nearly 10 years. What about you?
Male: Wow, not bad. I've been learning it since I was a kid.
Female: That must be very good. There are very few boys playing the piano. How did you think of learning it?
Male: It’s okay, haha. Because both my parents can play, I have been influenced by it since I was young.
Female: No wonder you have such a good temperament, you are different from ordinary boys.
Male: Thank you for the compliment. You are great too. As expected, we are all excellent piano players.
Female: Haha, I hope I have the opportunity to listen to your music.
Male: Let’s get together if we have a chance.
Of course, you don’t have to be able to play the piano, any hobby is fine, as long as you can connect with the other person.
If you have achieved good results, be sure to disclose it "accidentally", because girls generally have a mentality of admiration for people who are better than themselves.
3. Pets
People who keep pets love their pets as much as they love their own children, so if Starting from pets will quickly attract the other person's attention.
Especially if you are also a pet owner, there will be more common topics.
For example:
Male: Did you raise that dog in your circle of friends?
Female: Yes, my son is 3 years old.
Male: Haha, what a coincidence, I also have a dog, he is 5 years old.
Female: Yes, what breed do you raise?
Male: Border Collie.
Female: I heard Bian Mu is very smart.
Male: Yes, haha, I’ll send you a video of it.
Female: Okay.
Many single girls around me have also begun to find a pet for themselves, so they have become "pet-showing" maniacs in their circle of friends.
Wouldn’t it be a pity not to seize such a good opportunity?
I often send her photos and videos of my pets, and after chatting for a while, I can naturally ask her out. Yeah.
Even if you don’t have one yourself, you can still praise her pet more and buy toys for the dog from time to time. It doesn’t matter, the “bridge” between you will be slowly built.
4. Ask for advice and help
Some people have never chatted after adding friends. Although I really want to talk to someone, I can't find a topic.
If you want to appear natural and reasonable without making the other person feel defensive, you can alsoIt is a very good "excuse" to ask her for help or ask questions.
Not only does this move not appear deliberate, but it can also quickly bring people closer to each other. For example, say this:
"I recently had a friend who wanted to learn piano. I remember you are also learning piano, right? Where did you find the teacher?"
"Often Looking at your circle of friends, I find that you seem to like drinking. I have a friend who is also a drinker. His birthday is coming soon. I want to give him a bottle of wine, but I don’t understand it very well. Can I ask you for advice? "
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