Everyone must be familiar with the word security. Anyone who has dealt with girls knows that girls are very concerned about security. So did you know? In fact, most girls lack a sense of security. This is also Why do they think about things when they are fine? Today we will take a look at the reasons.
Why do women feel more insecure?
There are generally several reasons for this problem. Discussion:
1. Evolutionary differences
"In addition to dealing with the outside world, women also have to deal with men." So it seems that women are more insecure than men, and also Need more sense of security.
This is not difficult to understand.
During evolution, both males and females have to deal with dangers coming from the outside at any time. If they are not careful, they will be destroyed by predators several times more powerful than themselves.
When facing common challenges from the outside world, human women are always smaller than men. Not only are they weak and have menstrual periods, but they also have to bear the responsibilities of pregnancy, childbirth, and breastfeeding.
Whether it is attacking or escaping, it will be more difficult.
At this time, it is inevitable that men will need protection and care - and these things they seek from the outside are precisely the source of insecurity.
This is why, unlike most female animals, human women prefer to dress themselves beautifully - the kind of beauty that is more in line with the beauty standards of the opposite sex.
Women will be more afraid of the sense of uncertainty and lack of control brought about by "unforeseen circumstances".
2. Aggression that cannot be fully released
Whether it is from the perspective of social division of labor, group characteristics, or gender culture, it is always more difficult for women to cope with difficulties and challenges. , release one's aggression in the process of taking risks.
He will also become a tolerant and restrained ninja who puts away his aggression amidst many social rules.
And these aggressions that cannot be completely released are subconsciously hostile to the outside world, but after being suppressed, they will be converted and projected into the hostility of the outside world towards themselves.
In other words, there are threats from the outside world - I am not safe.
This is where the insecurity comes from.
3. Narcissistic thinking Narcissistic thinking
Observe the female friends around us, including ourselves , you will find that women are the more overall responsible ones in the family.
The basic clothing, food, housing and transportation of the family, the food, drink, and toileting of all members, and even the exchanges between relatives on both sides, all need to be completed under the communication and coordination of women as the intermediate link.
Therefore, if women worry more than men, they must worry more.
Sometimes, like a narcissistic baby, he wants to keep everything around him in a good operating state through his all-round and thoughtful care.
Any missing link will immediately create a sense of insecurity.
4. Habitual self-denial Habitual self-denial
A female visitor told me:
“All my friends advise me , Divorce is nothing to be afraid of. As long as the fault is not mine, there is no need to feel insecure. But the problem is exactly that, even though I know that the other person is at fault, I still feel that there is something wrong with me."
So I treat myself as a "victim." When "theory of guilt" is rampant, some women will still suffer great harm from these obviously distorted views.
Because of identification, there is guilt. When there is a problem in the relationship or status, the deepest devaluation of one's own value will become the source of the deepest insecurity.
This is also the reason why women are more insecure than men, so do you understand the reason now? If you like it, don’t forget to like and follow me. See you in the next issue.
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