Arguments are inevitable problems between couples, but how to deal with quarrels with your girlfriend is an art. Correct handling methods can help us solve problems better and enhance relationships. Several effective methods will be introduced below.
1. Calm down
When an argument starts, we tend to get emotional and talk uncontrollably. The most important thing at this time is to stay calm. We can calm down by taking deep breaths, counting, or stepping away from the scene for a while. After calming down, we can think about the problem more rationally and find a solution.
2. Listen to the other party
In a dispute, both parties have their own opinions and ideas. In order to solve problems, we need to listen to each other. Don't interrupt the other person, and listen carefully to what she wants and feels. Doing so will not only make the other person feel respected, but also help us better understand the other person's position.
3. Express your own opinions
In addition to listening to each other, we should also express our own opinions. But pay attention to the tone and method when expressing. Avoid using offensive words and instead express your feelings and needs in terms of "I feel", "I hope", etc. This can reduce the defensive psychology of the other party and increase the effectiveness of communication.
4. Find common ground
In quarrels, we often only see each other’s mistakes and shortcomings, but ignore each other’s common ground. Finding common ground can help us build consensus and better solve problems. We can look back at the good old days or identify common interests in the present so that both parties can put aside their arguments and come together to face the problem.
5. Find a solution
The purpose of an argument is not to win or lose; Solve the problem. Therefore, after an argument, we should think together about how to solve the problem. Different solutions can be tried and discussed and weighed. Through collaboration and compromise, we can find a solution that satisfies both parties.
6. Learn to apologize
In quarrels, we will inevitably say hurtful words or take drastic actions. When we realize our mistakes, we should promptly apologize to the other party. Apologizing not only relieves the other person's feelings of hurt, it is also an opportunity for us to grow and improve. At the same time, we must also learn to accept the other party's apology and offer tolerance and understanding.
Handling an argument with your girlfriend requires patience, wisdom and kindness. By calming down, listening to each other, expressing our opinions, finding common ground, finding solutions, and learning to apologize, we can better handle arguments and increase understanding and trust between each other.
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