Why are marriages more and more likely to have problems? In reality, emotional problems have always been a big problem that troubles couples. There are many people whose marriages have failed. Until the marriage breaks up, they don’t know why the marriage ended. If a man wants to have a happy marriage, he must learn the necessary marital skills.
1. Recognize the facts
In marital conflicts, many people have always regarded themselves as the key to the marriage. The victim thinks that he has been treated unfairly in the marriage and wants to repair the marriage by changing the other person's way...
If you have the same attitude in marriage, it is obviously very difficult. . If you don’t do what you want, ask yourself, why is there a problem in your marriage? It’s because you lack the skills to maintain a marriage and don’t know how to get along with your partner in marriage.
Many men may complain that their wives are “not woman enough”, so have you ever thought about whether you are “man enough”?
Use rational thinking to examine yourself as a [husband] As a husband, have you fulfilled your responsibilities as a husband?
2. Dealing with grudges
Marriage problems are always based on one (or multiple) conflicts. To repair them, In marriage, you must deal with grievances head-on, instead of choosing to ignore, escape, and argue...
Use the correct method to resolve conflicts in marriage head-on. If you lack the ability to solve problems, then learn, Work hard and change until you can solve the problem.
In fact, whether it is marriage or other pain, it is caused by one's own lack of ability.
In marriage, if you do not have the ability to deal with grudges, you will inevitably have to endure or get used to the corresponding influence.
3. Ease the relationship
In reality, many couples are stuck in the first two marital conflicts. stage. As long as you deal with the grudges between husband and wife, easing the relationship is actually a natural thing.
1) Compromise with each other and have more understanding
2) Reflect on yourself and let go of your own face
3) Take the initiative to contact and start a new life
4. Heating up the relationship
Taking a casual trip with your loved one will not only make the relationship between the two people better on the new journey, but also make the relationship better. We can increase our knowledge together.
If you feel that the relationship is not as passionate as before, it is because at this time you need to create some common interests and hobbies between two people, and the two people will experience some things together, and then slowly there will be a lot of intersections, communication, and feelings. It will also become deeper and deeper.
Each other is tired of living day after day.The other party doesn't have much interest anymore, so it will naturally appear that he doesn't like everything, which can easily lead to conflicts.
Freshness is very important to keep love lasting, so you must learn to find some freshness and experience more things together.
5. Stable Marriage
John M. Gottman proposed 7 principles to improve the quality of marriage. ：
1) Strengthen the marriage map (happy couples will be familiar with each other’s world)
2) Appreciate each other
3) Walk into each other instead of away< /p>
4) Let your partner influence you
5) Solve problems
6) Overcome the cold war
7) Discover the common meaning of life< /p>
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