If your relationship is very stable, then you will almost start arranging the marriage. When preparing for the marriage, there are many issues that need our attention. The first one is the issue of the bride price. The breakup occurred because the bride price was not negotiated. There are also a lot of couples. So today the editor is here to talk to you about the issues regarding bride price, let’s take a look together.
1. Children must discuss it in advance and reach an agreement
If you want to avoid embarrassment, don’t really give in. Parents talk about this at the dinner table. It is best to communicate your parents' and your own ideas with each other in advance before you meet, and then arrange a meeting after the two parties have reached an agreement. Just wait until we meet to confirm what we agreed upon.
2. When talking about bride price, it is best for the boy’s parents to speak first
It is always embarrassing for the girl to speak first on this kind of question, so it is best for boys to remind their parents to speak first, and it is best to wait for a while. Let’s talk about it later.
3. Remind your parents not to say these things
① Changing your mind or changing your words temporarily will appear very insincere.
② The attitude is tough and non-negotiable. This is the rhythm of the collapse of the negotiation.
③ Giving authority and threatening will definitely anger the other party.
4. There is no need to discuss issues that are too detailed.
Negotiating too detailed an appointment will easily lead to disputes. So when your parents meet, just talk about the general direction. You can discuss the details of the wedding in private.
Parents can discuss issues (which are also issues that you need to communicate in advance)
①The amount of the bride price, the amount of the dowry, and the wedding customs of the two places.
②Does it require an engagement? What is the general process?
③The wedding date, where and how many weddings will be held.
④ A rough budget for the wedding, what scale you want to have, and how you will pay for it.
⑤ Who will buy the house and car, how will the money be paid, and how will the name be written?
⑥Where to buy a house, where to live in the future.
5. When the situation is not right, children should mediate in time.
In case parents have disagreements, children should mediate in time. You can say:
①Parents, uncles and aunts, let’s eat first, the food is getting cold.
② Let’s talk about these things when we get home. We’re not in a hurry right now.
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