When you quarrel with your girlfriend, no matter what the reason is, no matter who is right or wrong, both parties are unlikely to be in a good mood at this time, and it is easy to fall into a cold war. Moreover, the most feared thing after a quarrel is the cold war, which can easily lead to misunderstandings. So what should you do if your quarrel with your girlfriend turns into a cold war?
p>1. Put down face and apologize
The purpose of quarreling is to solve problems, not to argue about who is right or wrong, nor to increase emotional rifts, so the purpose must be clear, faceism Let it go at home. No matter what kind of quarrel it is, it is normal and appropriate for the man to apologize first and be gentle first. How about being shameless and thick-skinned with your girlfriend? Is it abnormal? Is it okay? Then, if you do everything and she still has unsatisfied feelings and is still the same, then it is even more excessive and it will be meaningless. Therefore, you need to figure out whether you are doing a bad job or she is being too pretentious. Then adopt appropriate strategies.
2. Timely communication
The only effective way to fight the Cold War is to communicate proactively! Talk heart-to-heart! Put down the airs Share your feelings, guide her out of the cave (but don't force her, I've done that. Can you please stop the cold war? I can't stand it, and forcing her out of the closed cave avoids it). The communication here does not mean asking her other questions indifferently and waiting for her to respond, but avoiding the real problems between you. Rather, it means facing your problem, finding out the reason for the cold war, her feelings behind it, apologizing, ignoring her feelings, sharing your feelings, making her understand, etc. The attitude should be sincere and patient (sometimes a boy's apology doesn't work, and the girl feels it's insincere, not facing the problem, not getting her true feelings)... Try not to let the cold war last more than a day in the future.
3. Coax her more
I think this is not the first time for many boys to meet. You must pay attention to your skills when coaxing her, and try not to leave any little tail. Let's give an example of a friend coaxing his girlfriend:
If you feel that you are not in a good state when you two are chatting (it is very annoying to chat with her every day, think Free for a while) Quickly tell her, the old one asked you to play glass balls (find a reliable excuse). You need to go out and talk again later. I feel that when there is business (what you define as business), she won’t I've been pestering you for so long, so don't worry and go play. When the time is almost up, I'll tell you to finish playing the glass ball.
In fact, for your girlfriend, you have to coax her every day, but don’t get too used to it. Everyone has their own space and rights to be alone. It is impossible to surround her all the time. You must cultivate her If you keep accommodating now, a big quarrel will break out in the end. To coax your girlfriend, I think it’s all about coaxing, sweet-talking, apologizing and admitting your mistakes first, and then finding someone else.With the right excuse, sometimes a white lie is good.
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