Originally, after entering the relationship stage with my girlfriend, the next step should be the sweet days of love. But I also encounter many problems in my love life, such as my girlfriend who gets angry at every turn and needs to be coaxed, my girlfriend who is jealous, my girlfriend who lacks a sense of security, and my girlfriend who ignores me. The following is mainly an analysis of how my girlfriend is being indifferent to me, which is very hurtful. What should I do?
1. Understand the clingy psychology in love
In fact, love is only a part of life. Those boys who feel that their girlfriends are indifferent to them need to reflect on themselves first: You Does your girlfriend not love you, or you are too clingy? Generally speaking, if a girl doesn't love you, she won't agree to be with you, so it may be that you are too clingy. This type of boy hopes to receive feedback from his girlfriend all the time in a relationship. If his girlfriend doesn't answer your calls or doesn't reply to your messages in time, he will be heartbroken and very uncomfortable.
Although it is normal to be clingy in love, you have to face the fact that your dependence may not be well accepted by your girlfriend, because it is not that she does not love you, it is just her relationship with you. The attachment style is different, and she cannot understand your sense of dependence. She can live well in her own space, but when she needs you occasionally, she will be happy when you show up.
Of course, your clinginess is not wrong, and your girlfriend’s response is not wrong. When you realize this and try to accept it, the relationship between you will be much better, and your subconscious will improve. Improve your relationship.
2. Build the center of your own world
Although a man and a woman fall in love and have an intimate relationship, Apart from the relationship, you and your girlfriend are both independent individuals. When you feel that your girlfriend is ignoring you, have you ever thought about it, is it because you are too busy? You can't help but think about what she is doing and hope she will respond to you as soon as possible. Correspondingly, should you arrange your time reasonably to keep yourself busy?
Whether you make work the focus of your life, or find a hobby, reading, or exercising, you may be more suitable to participate in some social activities. If you gain the attention of others during the activities, you will no longer put your focus and Leave your dependent needs to your girlfriend, learn to transfer your own needs, meet your needs outside the world of two people, and then return to the relationship between you and your girlfriend better.
3. Communicate your needs with your girlfriend
If you think you are not a clingy person , I really feel that my girlfriend is cold and indifferent towards me, and I even wonder if my girlfriend doesn't love me. In fact, you should not make any assumptions at this time. Instead, you should communicate frankly with your girlfriend and tell her that it will make you uncomfortable if she ignores you. Tell her that you are very sad.Love her and you will be happy if she responds better to you. After all, your girlfriend may not understand that her behavior has hurt you, but she may never know if you don't say it. There is no need to rely on guessing in love. Sit down and talk about each other's needs, which can improve your relationship. Stable development.
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