Chatting during a date is a very crucial step, but some boys are introverted, so it is easy for them to be embarrassed when chatting on a date. Such a situation can easily make girls feel inappropriate, and they want to quickly End the date. How should introverted boys date girls to avoid this situation?
Since introverted boys are not good at chatting, they should learn to use their strengths and avoid weaknesses and work hard on dating arrangements.
1. Choose a suitable location
Imagine an introverted boy who is not good at chatting. What will happen if you arrange a date with a girl in a quiet place like a coffee shop?
It will definitely be extremely awkward. The atmosphere is so quiet and embarrassing, and you two have nothing to say, which makes it even more embarrassing.
Therefore, the date must not be arranged in a quiet place like this. On the one hand, you and the girls will be very reserved; on the other hand, the environment will suppress you. It is not your home field, and there is no way to help you and the girls interact on topics through the environment.
The more suitable locations include: amusement parks, outdoor areas, parks with good environment, and places like aquariums.
Arranging in this type of location means there are relatively many people, a large space, and many surrounding things and events, so it will not make your atmosphere very awkward. In addition, it will also give you more possibilities for interaction, and you will have more opportunities to "use topics to your advantage".
2. Go to multiple dating venues, don’t stay in one location all the time
Choose a location that suits you , after avoiding the embarrassment when you meet, because you are introverted and not good at chatting, there may still be embarrassing situations. So in order to avoid such a situation from happening, you should learn to change venues, and changing venues multiple times will make it more fresh, girls will be more emotionally aroused, and girls will also find dating with you rich and interesting.
There are several things to pay attention to when transitioning:
(1) Don’t wait until you are completely speechless and the atmosphere is awkward before you think of transitioning, because girls are likely to Will reject your next transfer plan.
(2)
Regarding transition, you should have certain date plans and arrangements in advance. If you make an impromptu decision, a girl will be able to detect that you deliberately said you would go somewhere else to avoid embarrassment. Once a girl sees through it, it is still easy for her to make the decision. I feel like you guys can't talk to each other.
(3) The transferred venue can still follow point 1, which is to choose a location suitable for your communication and interaction.
3.Chat interaction, topic selection
Brothers who are introverted and not good at chatting often deliberately keep talking about their lives, work, childhood experiences, etc. in order to avoid being embarrassed.
In fact, your deliberate completion can be noticed. Even if a girl smiles and nods to you, it's probably just out of politeness and personal accomplishment, and has nothing to do with her interest in you.
Therefore, your chat interaction and topic selection must avoid deliberately going to chat with her and interact. We must learn to interact with scenery and the environment and get rid of limitations.
For example:
For example, the first date with a girl is at an aquarium. Originally you didn't know what to talk about, but now you arrive at the aquarium. The marine life and the surrounding environment sometimes make it easy for girls to show their little girl side. She will be very curious and interested in playing in such a place. And the two of you will be more relaxed and focus part of your attention on the surrounding environment, so naturally it won't be so awkward.
I don’t know what to talk about and there is no topic. Many times the fundamental reason is that the atmosphere is awkward and the emotions are tense.
The awkward atmosphere and emotional tension will make you afraid to say what you want to say, or you may not even think of saying it.
At this time, when the atmosphere is relatively relaxed, you can use these creatures as topics for interactive communication, and you will not be limited to dating and meeting just talking about life and work.
4. Not being good at chatting is not scary, but the scary thing is that it makes girls think you are inappropriate
Many boys He is relatively introverted and not good at chatting with girls, but he can still successfully attract girls through dates and let the relationship continue to develop. The reason is often because he can give girls a "comfortable and suitable" feeling. .
There are several reasons:
(1) He knows how to exploit his strengths and avoid weaknesses.
Some boys who are not good at chatting know how to use details to convey what they mean. For example, the place where they go on a date has a lot of snacks and local specialties. There are some beautiful dolls sold on the road, or there are cute little gray wolves similar to them. If such a child likes to play with fear, you can buy one for her, which is just a small gift worth tens of dollars. The girl will be more happy and surprised when she meets him. She feels that he is a man who knows how to satisfy her cute heart and understands girls' little thoughts. ;
Or some boys will dress more carefully to give girls a more comfortable experience of getting along with each other and add points to their appearance.
These behaviors do not require too many words, and you can easily add points to yourself and win the favor of girls.
(2) He knows how to create a good personality for himself to show himself.
What is a character display? For example, the character Iron Man in Marvel movies has a character, and his character is a "hero". Such a character will give Iron Man unique value. For example, even if one has not watched it For those who have watched Marvel movies, when someone mentions Iron Man to them, they will think that he is a good person and a very powerful person.
In the same way, when we are dating a girl, we can also use some details to build some personality for ourselves, so that the girl will like you from the bottom of her heart.
For example, display the character of a caring boy, display the character of a polite and qualified boy, display the character of a considerate and attentive boy
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For example: Take the personality of a polite and qualified boy.
For example, when you are dating a girl, you eat together and when you come to the restaurant, you first help the girl Pull out the stool and let the girls sit first, and then you sit down; when the waiter hands you the menu, you gently say "thank you" to the waiter; when you need to add rice, you see the waiter passing by, you Will say "Hello, waiter, please bring me some rice."
These behaviors represent that you are a polite, quality, and educated man. In this process, you are not talking to girls. Even if you are not good at chatting, girls can still pay attention to these good qualities and excellent aspects of you through side presentations.
By showing in a similar way, girls will have a better impression of you, and you will also build a good personality for yourself.
Of course, the personality is not a single one. You may need a bit of a bad man personality in the later stage. You need to seize the opportunity to flirt, so that your relationship will not turn into a friendship, and also It will not let girls only see one side of you, but it will allow girls to understand you more comprehensively, recognize you, identify you, feel that you are suitable and comfortable to get along with, and have a better impression of you. .