If you want to chase a girl, you first need to gain her favor. However, the behavior of many boys chasing girls not only fails to win the favor of girls, but also makes girls feel that they are worthless, such as:
1. Looking ahead and hesitating
Some men often look forward and hesitant when they need to make decisions. Undecided. The best opportunity is already in front of you, but because you can't make up your mind, the opportunity is missed. Especially those fleeting opportunities, if you don't seize them decisively, you can only sigh in despair and regret.
The men women like are masculine. What is masculine? A resolute character, magnanimous, assertive, and unambiguous in situations.
We can see that a manly man can always make decisive decisions when encountering problems, accurately seize opportunities one after another, and strengthen himself step by step.
On the contrary, if you always coy and think about things when you encounter them, then it will no longer be the case that girls like men, and your value will become lower and lower in her eyes.
Because a man who is indecisive will miss opportunities to improve himself and his family one after another at the crossroads of life, and will gradually fall behind the society. To put it bluntly, he couldn't handle some of the trivial matters in life, such as struggling for a long time about choosing where to go on a date for dinner. By the time he had made up his mind, the good mood for the date would have been exhausted long ago.
Women will think that living with such a man for the rest of their lives is a very insecure thing. As a result, it will be difficult for them to put you as a priority when choosing a partner.
2. Like to shrink back when things happen
We will encounter many problems in life and work. It cannot be solved by simply moving your hands. However, as the saying goes, there are always more solutions than difficulties. Things always have to be solved. As long as we are willing to think of solutions, we rarely encounter real obstacles.
But if a man encounters something, he will not think about how to solve the problem, but choose to escape: This is not good, it is so and so, and I am so and so, so I can’t do it. .
If you often do this in front of a girl, your image will soon collapse in front of her!
For example, if a girl asks you to help her change a light bulb, you go over At first glance, I thought, wow, the roof is so high. What if I fall? It’s not worth injuring myself for such a thing: “I’m afraid I can’t do this. It’s too high. You need to find a master.”
To be honest, if we encounter something, especially a small thing, there are many ways to solve it, but you don’t think of a way to solve it, but choose to avoid it, then what do you do if you can’t do such a small thing well? Used.
FinishedAfter all, our current society is generally still a patriarchal society and has not yet entered the matrilineal era. Men still play the role of the backbone of the family.
Therefore, a man who is strong, responsible, and likes to think of solutions when encountering problems is always in demand wherever he goes.
3. Solve girls’ problems in a flattering way
There is something wrong with the girl you like When she is happy, many boys feel as if disaster is about to happen, and they start to show her great attentiveness, satisfy her various requests, and do whatever the girl says.
This kind of bun-shaped personality is very fatal to the relationship between men and women.
When a girl feels dissatisfied and unhappy with you, we should first analyze why she is unhappy and then deal with it. If it's your fault, it doesn't matter if you apologize to the girl in question as a nice gesture.
What if it’s the girl’s fault? She is angry on purpose, she is pretentious, and she has a glassy heart. Can she still try to please her?
If you try to please someone when something goes wrong, you can think of it as you taking the initiative to provide a girl with something. Get the hang of it and let her know that all she needs to do is make a fuss and you'll give her everything she wants.
Men cannot be buns.
4. Always take the initiative
When chatting, you are the one who takes the initiative to find the topic. When dating, you are the one who initiates it, and you are always the one who responds. She's fine, there's only one thing she needs to do: sit back and wait for you to give her everything.
If a person is always an attacker and a giver in a relationship, the person you are pursuing will take all your efforts for granted and will not be moved at all.
People have a very strange psychology, that is, the harder it is to get something, the more seriously they take it and hold on tightly. The easier it is to get it, especially if it is delivered to your doorstep, the cheaper it will be in people's minds. The same goes for pursuing girls. The more you take the initiative to come to her, the more she will think you are very ordinary and not think you have any value.
When this pattern becomes a habit and the roles between you and her are fixed, then forget about her making any contribution to your relationship.
5. Touching and touching a girl when they first meet her
For example, grabbing a girl’s hand as soon as they meet at a date place During the date, he always touched her body intentionally or unintentionally.
Regarding physical contact, we’d better leave the priority to girls.
No matter how well you build intimacy online, it doesn’t mean that a girl is willing to have physical contact with you the first time you meet her. If a boy starts to touch you as soon as you get started, this is a very taboo thing in the relationship between the sexes. Even if a girl likes you, she will classify you as a type with a bad personality.
If you are too impatient to eat hot tofu, if you want to make physical advances with a girl, it is safest to first solidify your good feelings offline, and then test her attitude, starting with holding hands and upgrading step by step.
In the matter of physical contact between the sexes, as a boy, there are only advantages and no disadvantages in being cautious. This is not only a gentlemanly manner, but also a sense of protecting yourself.
If a girl doesn’t mean that to you and starts to touch you when you first meet her, and she thinks you are harassing her, then you are harassing her. You must know that men are not even legally qualified to be raped.
Finally, I hope that all single men can always maintain the good habit of looking at themselves in the process of pursuing love. If you find that you have the above-mentioned bad habits that reduce your charm, you must take action immediately. Change.
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