I don’t know if you have ever had such an experience. You clearly like someone but don’t want to be with her, or you clearly feel that she also likes you, but just doesn’t want to be with you. These two situations are collectively referred to as "like" But we can't be together." Do you know what caused this to happen? If you don't know, just follow the editor and take a look.
In psychology, the behavior of liking but not being able to be together is called "love weakness"!
Because the fear of loss overwhelms the desire for happiness.
Because I lacked love and recognition when I was a child, I didn’t believe in myself when I grew up, didn’t believe that I could get love, and didn’t believe that I could keep love for a long time.
Afraid of losing, I would rather not start. Afraid of being hurt, you simply reject the possibility of happiness. This is a disease called love weakness.
Eight manifestations of powerless love:
1. I am afraid of making emotional commitments.
2. Whenever I want to enter the next stage of an intimate relationship (such as an open relationship, cohabitation, marriage, etc.), I will shrink back.
3. I hope to maintain a (physical or psychological) distance from the other person.
4. I am very taboo about traumatic emotional experiences in the past and have never been able to face them.
5. I will not actively pursue others, but always wait to be pursued.
6. I used various reasons to avoid the opportunity for two people to be alone together and resist intimacy.
7. I often engage in unreliable behavior, such as being habitually late, canceling appointments at short notice, etc.
8. I will not show affection on social networks, such as not interacting with each other, not posting group photos, etc.
The reasons for the formation of inability to love:
1. The individual has a low self-evaluation and a serious lack of self-confidence.
2. Individuals have too high self-requirements and pursue perfection in everything. This is also true in love.
3. Individuals have a serious lack of security when facing the opposite sex and cannot establish intimate links.
What should we do if we are unable to love?
1. Think back to the previous emotional experiences that we thought were beautiful, Then try to find the person you love according to the previous standards.
2. If you can’t always find the person you like, then choose the best one among the people who pursue you, then try to date that person, and learn to discover the other person’s qualities. advantage.
3. Communicate and make friends with people who are optimistic, positive and positive energy; reject anyone with negative energy.
What should we do if we fall in love with someone who is unable to love us?
1. Patience
We must be patient, use time to slowly influence the other person, and help the other person build confidence in the relationship.
2. Sincerity
People who are unable to love usually have a strong sense of right and wrong when it comes to relationships. If we are slightly insincere, the other person will instantly feel conflicted and disgusted. Then it will be difficult for your relationship to continue.
3. Take more actions
In relationships, you should use more actions to prove that you are good to the other person, rather than just staying at the level of words, because no one is a fool, you love If you don’t love the other person, everyone can judge from their actions.
4. Be careful
People who are unable to love are particularly sensitive to their feelings. Therefore, we must be careful and not make the same mistakes that our predecessors made.
5. Give the other person space
If after getting along for a while, the other person still hasn’t expressed whether they want to be together or not, don’t rush or force us. We need to give the other person some space to relax and think. , when they think about it, they will naturally give us an explanation.
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