I don’t know if you have ever encountered that kind of thing, where you say I like you, but if you take a step forward and she takes a step back, you take a step back and she disappears without a trace. The more common manifestation of this situation is What? She was very, very enthusiastic at first, but after getting along for a long time, she became more and more indifferent. Do you think she is reserved? But, she seems to be quite enthusiastic. This situation is actually quite consistent with the situation that the colder a girl is, the more she cares about you. Let’s analyze it in detail below:
Why do girls care about you more when they are colder
1. Love but not Dare
Do you think she is hot and cold? When you feel passionate, your heart becomes confused. Do you really like this girl? But she has been unwilling to upgrade the relationship, but she is willing to date herself. What does it mean? What should I do to take her down with one punch? In fact, this involves an important point that you may not quite understand about a girl’s needs, which is why you still don’t know how to win her over.
Actually, this topic is quite heartbreaking. Why do you care more but dare not show it? In fact, you love but don’t dare. You usually control your emotional investment in a quantitative way. In this way Why did the other party appear? The purpose is to be able to stop the loss in time when the other party seems to show that he doesn't love me, so that he doesn't look so sad and embarrassed, because he doesn't want to say that he is too enthusiastic and end up losing everything in the end.
This situation will cause you to subconsciously test the other party, so how to test? Maybe at the beginning, she will take the initiative to send you messages and then make a tentative offer. But once she sends you a few messages and you don’t reply and you don’t take the initiative to find this girl, she will think that since If you don't reply to my message, then I won't reply either. I'll reply in a few days. If you haven't taken the initiative to look for her all day long, then she will immediately feel your coldness, and then she will feel, eh, you don't need me that much, and then I will immediately back away, and then use the same method. To treat you.
2. The desire to win or lose in relationships
Then humans have a relatively strong desire to win in relationships. This sense of victory, vanity, and mutual satisfaction will make them extremely protective of their own self-esteem, and they will very much want to save their dignity and face. Therefore, when getting along with the person they like, their expectations cannot be managed. Yes, she will only rise higher and higher. When they find that there is no feedback for their efforts, they will subconsciously have an instinctive reaction, even if they don't want to fall behind.
In the same way, it seems that this way can save oneself a little bit of dignity, but it is just to become a stranger and do some harmful things, in order to comfort oneself. A mind that makes itself feel and look like itselfI give less emotion than you, and I invest less. If I want to prove myself, I won't say that I put all my emotions into it, which makes me look embarrassed.
In this way, she will feel that she will not be afraid of losing if she does not have it, and will not be afraid of being abandoned if she leaves early. As a result, girls will become more and more neglectful of you, and then she will feel that she can advance and retreat freely. This will last for a long time. That's why you have been single for a long time. In fact, your enthusiasm will be slowly consumed in the process, and you may not even believe in love. The vicious cycle will eventually lead to a more painful result for you, that is, in addition to not believing, you also dare not To face your own sincerity.
Human beings are always good at deceiving themselves and hiding themselves. So is this behavior reserved or playing hard to get? Regardless of gender, if she is reserved, she will definitely not cut off contact with you; if she plays hard to get, she will definitely try her best to find a common ground with you. In fact, sometimes some people choose to keep a distance from the person opposite, not because they don't care, nor because they want to capture your heart more easily, but because they know one thing clearly, you will never belong to me.
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