Wanting to catch up with a girl you like is actually not as difficult as you think. Today I will talk about 3 simplest and easiest-to-understand knowledge points. If you understand, you will not be far away from being single.
How to chase a girl?
1. What are my strengths and attractions?
2. Which of my strengths and attractions do girls buy?
3. What I want What should I change for the other person? What would I not choose to change?
It is enough to consider these three questions clearly.
Some boys who have little experience in pursuing girls are prone to making mistakes, because they naturally think: As long as I treat this girl well and I am sincere to her, I can pursue her.
And they also especially like to flaunt their "sincerity" and "dedication" to girls. At this stage, they are still in their own world, so they often feel moved by themselves.
This kind of boys may largely stem from the concept instilled in them by their elders: a girl will like someone who treats her well, and as long as you love and take care of others, someone will like you. But they don't realize that times are different.
In the past, women had low status and were accessories to men. In addition, it was an era of "scarce resources", so men with "strong support attributes" would become high-quality men in the hearts of many women. In other words, in the past era, being nice to a girl was a very effective way to court a mate.
Therefore, when you are pursuing a girl, please add some more conditions before the sentence "I really like you": "My XX has good conditions, my XX has high value, and my XX is very powerful. And, I really like you.”
If the boy who gets stuck on the first question is because he is "self-motivated." , then the boy who is stuck by the second question is because of "arrogance".
Some boys are not in bad condition, nor are they unable to show themselves, but they still have many problems in the process of pursuing girls.
Just like when studying, some people are "good at reading" and some are "good at taking exams" - you memorize a bunch of knowledge points, but in the end the short-answer questions don't reveal what the questioner wants to test you. If you just pile up knowledge points online, you won't get high scores.
Okay, if the first two questions have not stumped you, you are not only valuable now, but you also know how to show your value to the girl you want to pursue, then you should probably succeed in pursuing her. After meeting a few girls, or in your WeChat list, there will be several potential partners who can interact with you.
Then is there no problem? No, because in these high ranksIn front of the boy, there is the final ultimate question.
Boys look at logic, girls look at feelings. A common problem that boys often make when pursuing girls is to think: I'm so good, why don't you like me?
When girls are looking for a partner, conditions do play a part, but they still There are other factors interfering: For example, how have you been feeling recently, whether you feel safe, whether you have come out of the shadow of your ex...
Many, many factors will affect it. interfere with their final choice. In short: just because a girl isn't interested in you right now, it doesn't mean you're bad.
Boys who understand one-sidedness will feel: As long as I can’t chase this girl, it’s because I’m not good, and I will definitely Want to change.
Generally, there are two ways to modify it:
1. I am crazy about being nice to you. As long as I show enough enthusiasm and sincerity, you will be moved by me
2. I strive to improve myself crazily. I make money, keep fit, and study, hoping that you will fall in love with me.
And such boys are also the ones who are most likely to become "dog lickers": because they Without an accurate criterion for judging their own value, they will feel that they are valuable only if the girl likes them. As long as the girl doesn't like them, they have to make changes.
This is also the most important question to think about if you want to reach the level of a master in chasing girls: What should I change for the other person? What will I not choose to change?
We have been talking about "pleasing the other person" in the first two items, but when you reach a certain level, when you have the ability to attract the opposite sex, you should start to learn to screen, and you should think about what kind of person you are. What you want to pursue, what is the bottom line you pay in the process of pursuing this person.
Maybe you really like this person, but she has no sense of security. If you are with her, you will have to endure her checks and phone calls. So if you are a relatively independent person, then you The pursuit of her ends here;
Maybe this girl is really beautiful, but she is a money worshiper and a vampire, so you have to learn not to be her cash machine, and don’t put yourself in trouble. All the hard-earned money is wasted on her;
Or maybe this girl thinks you are very good, and you also want to be with her, but she cannot accept a long-distance relationship. For you, Today's cities have rare platforms and job opportunities, and you shouldn't change your job for her...
Not all "not together" are because "you need "Change", not all "possible girls" you have to win.
If you know what is suitable for you and what is not suitable for you, you will truly learn to chase girls.
Thinking through these three questions will not help you become a heartthrob, but it will definitely help you find a suitable partner.
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