Many people don’t understand why so many people can’t forget their first love? In fact, I was also very curious about this issue before, so I went online to find the reason, and then I briefly summarized it today. Let’s take a look. .
French writer Romain Rolland once said:
Early love only needs very little nourishment! Just They need to see each other and touch each other lightly when passing by, and a fantasy power will emerge in their hearts to create her love.
A little boring thing can make people ecstasy.
Indeed, in the hearts of many people, first love is unforgettable and beautiful.
Why is first love unforgettable?
1. Chicconi effect
Chicconi effect, also called Zeigarnik memory effect. It means that people are more impressed by things that have not yet been processed than by things that have been completed.
Because many people have a natural desire for completion, which drives individuals to start and finish things and not give up halfway.
On the one hand, the unfinished work is like a big stone, and the motivation to complete the matter is like an invisible hand, constantly pushing the individual to complete the matter.
On the other hand, after something is completed, the motivation to complete it has been satisfied, and the matter no longer takes up too much of the individual's psychological resources.
With the influx of other events, this incident naturally recedes into the background and is gradually forgotten by people’s subjective consciousness.
Most people’s first love ends in vain. For individuals, fruitless first love is like the “unfinished business” mentioned in the Chicconi Effect. All the psychology related to first love The energy remains in the hearts of these people.
2. Imprinting effect
The imprinting effect is a concept in psychology. This concept was first proposed by Luo Lenz proposed it, but it was Lorenz's teacher Heinlot who first discovered it.
Many people don’t know much about the imprinting effect. In fact, it is the well-known nestling complex.
The imprinting effect means that animals will regard the first living animal they see as their mother.
In other words, even if this living body is not the biological mother of the animal, it will still be regarded as the biological mother.
What’s interesting is that humans or inanimate objects can also serve as this living body.
For people, the object of their first love is often the person they meet when their love has just begun. Even if it is not necessarily true love, it is the first lover they meet in life. .
It is precisely because of the existence of imprinting that first love becomes an existence like "white moonlight" and "cinnabar mole".
3. Head effect
Head effect means that in a field, the first place is often Will get more attention and have more resources.
The head effect is very common in people's lives. People remember many world's best, but it is difficult to remember the world's second for this reason.
The same is true in love. People may forget their second partner, third partner...but it will be difficult to forget the first partner.
First love is everyone’s first love. Whether they keep in touch with the first love or lose contact with the first love, the first love is unforgettable for people.
So now you understand why so many people can’t forget their first love!
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