What is the main reason for divorce? Marriage. ——Oscar Wilde
Before you have eaten a lollipop, you may have thought that the lollipop is the most delicious thing in the world; before you have been in love, you may have thought that love is the greatest thing in the world. feelings; before getting married, you thought marriage was the best ending of love. Someone will eventually tell us, no, it’s not like this!
Everything is just turmoil forever without getting what you want. Love is because you have not received love; you yearn for marriage because you have not experienced marriage! People have over-amplified the pleasure brought by their desires because they are immersed in fantasy and cannot extricate themselves. After all-fantasy is the source of fun.
Some people may say that there are happy couples and loving couples in marriage. But in fact, the happiness of some people's marriages does not come from themselves, but from the misfortune of other families. Just like the happiness of the rich is not based on themselves, but on the poor.
If this is the case, then what is the meaning of marriage? Some people say, "Marriage is like a besieged city. People outside the city People in the city want to get in, but people in the city want to get out.” Others say, “The world does not lack beauty, it just lacks beautiful eyes.”
The key to a happy marriage lies in how you adapt to it. There is a saying in "The Shawshank Redemption": At first you resist it, then you get used to it, and finally you rely on it.
If you want to enjoy marriage, you must find happiness in marriage before you can enjoy the happiness in it. Although marriages in movies and TV dramas are usually somewhat It's ridiculous, but art always comes from life. Only by savoring marriage seriously can you feel the fun in it.
Some people find delicacies from the mountains and seas boring, while others enjoy home-cooked side dishes with gusto. A happy marriage does not lie in its external form, but in your inner feelings.
Realizing this, even if a couple lives together, even if it is a calm daily life, there is still fun for the couple.
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