Fighting is an inevitable problem that couples will encounter, but if conflicts are not resolved in time, it may lead to a deterioration of the relationship or even a breakup. However, how to resolve conflicts without coaxing your girlfriend during a quarrel? Suggestions will be given below from several aspects.
1. Think calmly
During a quarrel, both parties are very emotional. The best way at this time is to calm down and stop the quarrel. You can choose a quiet place, let yourself be alone for a while, and calmly think about the root cause of the problem and the solution. Doing so can help relieve tension and allow you to look at the problem more rationally.
2. Put yourself in someone else’s shoes
When you calm down, try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes positions and feelings. Imagine if you were in the other person's shoes, would you have the same reactions and emotions. Doing this can help you understand the other person better and see the situation more objectively. At the same time, you can also find more appropriate solutions through empathy.
3. Frank communication
The root cause of quarrels is often poor communication between the two parties. Therefore, it is important to communicate candidly when resolving conflicts. You can choose an appropriate time and place to sit down and have a good talk. During the conversation, pay attention to expressing your opinions and feelings in a calm tone, and at the same time listen to the other party's opinions. Through honest communication, mutual understanding and trust can be enhanced.
4. Find common ground
When quarreling, people often fall into a cycle of quarreling and blaming each other. In order to resolve conflicts, you can try to find common ground between both parties. Whether it's values, hobbies, or goal pursuits, there may be some things in common. By finding common ground, you can bring both parties closer together, making it easier to reach compromises and solve problems.
5. Learn to apologize
In a quarrel, both parties may have excessive words or behaviors. If you find that you have done something wrong, you should learn to apologize. Apologizing does not mean admitting defeat or giving up your position, but it does express your regret and willingness to correct your mistakes. At the same time, you should also accept the other party's apology and give the other party a chance to start over.
6. Seek help from a third party
If the quarrel cannot be resolved through the efforts of both parties, you can consider seeking help from a third party. This third party can be a friend, family member, or professional counselor. They can look at problems objectively and give neutral suggestions and opinions. Through the intervention of a third party, conflicts can be better resolved and the relationship can be avoided from further deterioration.
Don’t coax your girlfriend when you quarrel. Resolving conflicts requires calm thinking, empathy, frank communication, finding common ground, learning to apologize, and seeking help from a third party. onlyOnly when both parties make efforts can they effectively resolve conflicts and maintain a good emotional relationship.
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