Topics are limited. After a couple has been together for a long time, there will inevitably be a day when they run out of topics. If there are no certain chatting skills at this time, the relationship between the two parties may turn into a relatively speechless embarrassment at any time. . So what should you do when you don’t know how to chat with your girlfriend?
The following will teach you two tips for chatting, so that you don’t have to deliberately prepare topics when chatting with your girlfriend. Can never be indifferent.
1. Keyword extension
The so-called keyword extension refers to grabbing some of the other party’s words. Think of words with divergent thinking, associate the possible meanings of this word, and then use this meaning as a topic for your chat to extend it step by step. This kind of conversation method is one step after another, which can greatly increase the number of topics you can talk about. No matter how long you and your girlfriend chat, there will still be topics to talk about.
Keywords don’t have to stick to linear extension. Sometimes the branch topics triggered by a keyword are almost finished. We can also return to a previous high-value keyword and use this keyword to make other Lenovo, so that our topics can be like a network, interconnected and produce countless branches. As long as we don't feel tired, we can chat almost indefinitely.
Use this kind of conversational thinking skillfully, and you will find that even if you don’t prepare the topic in advance, you can still have countless topics to talk about. You don’t need to rack your brains to figure out what she is interested in or how to say hello to her. Wait, you can happily chat with your girlfriend anytime and anywhere.
2. Use female thinking
There are differences in the thinking of men and women. When a man sees a beautiful woman, a confident person may think about how to make her his girlfriend, while an unconfident person may think about how it would be great if I had such a girlfriend. In short, their thoughts are directed towards "getting" such a girl. Target; when seeing ugly women, they basically ignore them.
When a woman sees a handsome guy, she will feel happy, excited, and happy. When she sees a loser, she will feel contempt, disgust, and other emotions.
Everyone should see the difference. Men’s thinking is directed towards the ultimate goal, and they will find ways to get valuable members of the opposite sex, while they will bypass and ignore worthless members of the opposite sex.
Women’s thinking is that no matter whether the opposite sex is valuable or not, they will have mental and emotional reactions. However, seeing a valuable opposite sex will produce positive emotions, while seeing a worthless opposite sex will produce negative emotions.
It may be a bit complicated, but in fact it can be summed up in a nutshell: men’s thinking is directed towards the goal, clear and clear; while women’s thinking is scattered and jumping, and the thinking fragments are distributed in a point-like manner.
Under the influence of two different thoughts, menWomen also have completely different attitudes towards chatting.
Boys basically talk about things and use chatting as a way to communicate and solve problems. They rarely think about content that has nothing to do with the topic;
But girlfriends talk about things. , Talking about the heart, for her, chatting is the circulation of emotions and emotions. When chatting, she will always pay attention to things other than the content of the chat (such as your tone of voice, attitude, expression, etc.).
The more procedural and logical the brain, the worse the mutual understanding ability with ordinary girlfriends, and the worse the conversational ability with girlfriends. This is why many of our brothers always have no topic to chat with their girlfriends.
After understanding this difference, you guys must have some idea of ??how to use female thinking to chat with your girlfriend?
When she says something to you, she doesn’t necessarily mean to talk to you. You discuss this matter, so we have to treat people and not things.
For example, your girlfriend puts on new clothes and asks you: "Do you think these clothes look good?"
And your first reaction is basically observation. Whether this dress looks good or not, you can then evaluate it based on your own aesthetics. Maybe less smart boys will honestly say they don’t look good if they think they don’t look good. Smarter boys will say they look good if they don’t look good: “These clothes are pretty good-looking.”
However, even this smart guy is He took the topic to a dead end and didn't really bring it to her heart.
The correct approach is to praise her personally at this time and direct the topic to her:
"Not bad, you look better in this dress."
My girlfriend cares about your opinions and attitude towards her, and doesn't like you to reason with her and present the facts, so we have to help her Assistant.
One of the principles of female thinking is: Hello, I am good, everyone is good, and if you say I am not good, don’t even think about it. So when talking to a girlfriend, help her or not, and stand firmly on her side, then no matter how much you talk, there will be no sudden silence in the air.
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