When some boys chat with girls, just a few words can make the girls want to ignore you at all. So have you ever thought about why you always talk to girls when they are chatting? In fact, it is when chatting. The following behaviors occurred:
1. Only care about yourself and don’t care about the other person’s feelings
The most common problem among brothers who always talk to death is that they focus all their attention on themselves, only caring about whether they can express their own thoughts, and almost never consider what the person you are chatting with is thinking. . Therefore, your topics always revolve within the scope of your interest, and you talk about topics that girls don't understand or are not interested in taking up. And people with this kind of thinking often have the bad habit of not caring about others.
If you want to improve, you must first try to give the girl the opportunity to speak first, learn to listen and observe, and then analyze what she wants to say and what she can say. Once you get used to letting her speak first, it won't be easy for a girl to lose interest in communicating with you because she is eager to express herself and then locks the topic within her own scope. And only after listening carefully to her thoughts will you know what she likes and what she wants to talk to you about.
2. Don’t know how to observe words and emotions, and cannot change the topic in time
Always understand Brothers who talk to death often like to immerse themselves in their own world and ignore other people's emotions and expressions. Sometimes your words make a girl feel uncomfortable or bored, or she is not in a good state and doesn’t want to talk. She will react through her expression and tone of voice. But you don't notice it at all. The girl is obviously very unhappy and impatient. If you keep talking there, the girl will kick you away when her patience reaches the limit.
Chat masters are very good at observing words and emotions, and dynamically adjust the topic according to the girl's reaction. In this way, what he says is always something the other party likes to hear and can accept, so that people can continue chatting with him happily.
3. Unable to control emotions
Poor emotional management ability is also caused by One of the crimes of a girl who refuses to continue chatting with you is that such a person can easily get angry because there are a few thorns in what the other person said, and then talk to the person in a weird way, or even fall out on the spot, making the atmosphere very tense. No one will want to talk to you anymore.
4. Unable to understand what girls really mean
Girls often say one thing with their mouths and think another in their hearts. Boys think she is just what she says. What I mean is oftenIt will lead to a ridiculous ending.
She was obviously angry, but she said she was not angry, so the boy thought she was really not angry, and acted to add fuel to the fire; she was obviously worried about something, but she said it was okay, so the boy turned around and did what he should do. Well, he went and left the girl alone there to continue to be depressed; it was obvious that the girl was acting coquettishly with him, but the boy thought she was scolding him, so he became furious; it was obvious that the girl was expressing dissatisfaction with him, but the boy thought the girl was praising her, and continued to make mistakes further and further down the road.
In reality, due to human sophistication, some words cannot be said directly and clearly on the table, especially for girls. Affected by factors such as personality and thinking, they even like to hide their true meaning, or even speak the opposite of what they really mean. If you don't know the art of euphemism, you may not even be able to have the most basic conversation with a girl, and you may not know if you accidentally offend someone. Death from chatting is just the lightest consequence.
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