The purpose of our blind dates is actually very simple, which is to find someone with whom we can spend the rest of our lives. However, when you confess your love to the girl you are dating for a while, you receive the response that we should still be friends. This kind of Is it still necessary to chase after this situation?
First of all, we have to determine what the psychology of the blind date girl is when she responds to this sentence, and then it depends on the situation.
1. She also wants to get to know her better
Failure to confess to a girl on a blind date does not mean the failure of the relationship. , many girls are a little reserved and don’t like to get into it so deeply right from the beginning. The reason why the confession fails is just because she wants to know you a little better.
This kind of girl will have a very obvious sign: if you send her a message, she will reply to you, and she will not refuse when you ask her to hang out.
Why do you say you don’t want it when your body is so honest?
It’s not because of yours. If the relationship is not in place, the girl doesn't really want to reject you, she has a crush on you.
But your attraction to her is not enough for her to say "I do". She feels that her relationship with you is not that of a lover, but she is addicted to the tenderness between the two of you.
She is afraid that agreeing too quickly will appear to be of low value, and she is also afraid that not agreeing will drive you away. This kind of small ambiguity makes her obsessed and makes it difficult for her to make a decision.
Therefore, you can continue to pursue this situation, as long as you maintain the current relationship, continue to show your high value on the basis of creating a sense of comfort. Let her see your sincerity again, deepen her affection for you, and eventually make her fall in love with you.
2. Train you to become a backup man
There is another layer to this sentence: Let’s just be friends. Meaning: I want to train you to be a spare tire.
She wants to continue to keep you by her side as a friend, enjoy your kindness to her, and accept all your gifts as ordered.
So she will definitely not refuse you when you treat her to dinner, and she will even chat with you to relieve her loneliness.
They are proficient in this and know how to cultivate spare tires. They often send you a kiss when you feel you can’t get it, and give you a slap when you feel you are about to get it.
Although blind dates are more reliable than girls you meet through other channels, you still have to be on guard against others.
So, don’t let liking become your handle, and don’t let compromise become your burden.
It is basically impossible for a spare tire to become a regular employee. After all, peopleI've told you clearly, we are friends!
This kind of girl is like being trapped in a stock. If you don't stop losing money, we will only see you again in 10 years.
In this case, there is absolutely no need to pursue it.
3. She is rejecting you
On the surface, she says we should be friends, but in reality it is just a courtesy. After all, she met you through a blind date introduced by her family, and we have been together for so long. She cannot refuse you directly, so she chose to use friends as an excuse to slowly alienate you.
Turn around and never reply to WeChat or answer the phone. When you ask her to meet, she will always say: Sorry, I have something to do at home/Oh, I’m so sorry, my friend made an appointment with me today/I just took a shower After taking a shower, forget it~
Good night, you don’t need to reply. The tears are heavy, the wine is smelly, the cold wind is broken, and we have become friends who will never talk to each other again.
A girl is not willing to continue to be friends with you. She only wants to escape from the difficulties of your marriage and find a more stable forest.
So the moment you confess your love, you have already lost. In this case, it’s better to give up.
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