When a couple is together, as time goes by, the two parties will talk less and less. If they contact each other every day, it will speed up the process, but does this mean that when you are in love, you don’t need to contact each other every day?
Of course not. If you can’t even have the most basic chat while falling in love, then why fall in love?
But that doesn’t mean that you should chat all the time. After all, it’s normal to be in love and communicate with each other every day, but it’s a bit abnormal to chat all the time every day.
Think about it: if you keep the same tiredness as when you first got together, can two people still live well?
As soon as your phone vibrates, you put it down immediately For everything, chat with this person, and check your phone every now and then, for fear of missing this person’s message;
When you have nothing to do, just look at this person’s social updates, even if the other person posts an innocuous friend circle, Just comment + like it immediately, for fear that you have done something wrong;
Your free time is either on a date with this person or on the way to a date. Even if you meet each other, you will have nothing to talk about. , but also stay together and chat...
Look, if you are in such a relationship where you are worried about gains and losses, sensitive and anxious, you don’t have to wait for the other person to dump you. Sooner or later, you yourself will not be able to stand this kind of high pressure. How can we talk about the long-term environment in a relationship?
Therefore, the frequency of chatting during the love period is actually caused by the novelty and curiosity of two people. This is not the state of love, and is abnormal and abnormal. It is short-lived and irreversible.
What is a healthy intimate relationship and the chat mode it should have?
You did not reply immediately Me, I can understand that you are busy. After the other person is done with their work, they can chat with you for a while.
You have your own things to do, and he has his ideals waiting to be pursued. Chatting is just a way to relieve stress and loneliness, not a tool to squeeze each other's lives.
There is no fixed standard for how long and what to talk about every day. It doesn’t mean that you don’t have feelings if you talk less. It means that when you encounter something interesting and you are willing to share it with the other person, why is it sad? The other party is also an absolutely trustworthy confidant.
When two people are together, chatting is just a tool for companionship. You have your work to pursue, and I have my studies to work hard on. Both of them know what they want to do.
Chatting is not a task that must be completed every day, but a spontaneous behavior of love.
If I see anything interesting, I can share it with you so that you can be happy with me;
If you have any troubles, I can share it with you.Think of me as your first person to talk to and let me help you relieve stress.
To put it bluntly, two people are not chatting for the sake of chatting, but I like you and love you, so I want to share my life with you and empathize with each other's emotions. I hope you will do the same.
A relationship where there is nothing to say is actually the most terrifying kind of existence.
Apart from necessary communication every day, the two of them have no other topics to share. You are lying on the bed playing with your mobile phone, and she is slumped on the sofa watching TV series. Gradually, the partner becomes a bed partner. In the end, both of them are I am deeply confused, "Why do I feel like there is no difference whether I am in love or not?"
Even if a person tells you that he is too busy to reply to your messages?
Will he believe it after saying this?
Since we have chosen to fall in love, it means that "we must set aside a period of time for love." As partners, we are also obliged to take care of each other's interests and feelings.
Don’t think that “sharing your life every day and not remembering it after talking is a meaningless thing.”
In fact, we chat not because the content is interesting, but to let this person know our existence, so that each other can learn to grow, learn to empathize, and learn how to love someone in this relationship.
Even if you are very busy, a message only lasts a few seconds. Are you not willing to give your partner a reassuring explanation even if you have time to say "I'm busy and will chat later"?
If two people have not communicated effectively for a long time, then don’t think about it: you don’t have much love at all, and the purpose of being together is just to find someone to accompany you.
We can’t just be happy for ourselves in an intimate relationship, but need to balance and adjust according to the needs of both parties. If you like it so much that no one disturbs you, then why are you still looking for a partner? It’s great to be single!
Therefore, When you choose to be with someone, you must realize that "the spiritual worlds of two people need to establish a link." You have to spend part of your time taking care of the other person, and the other person will also spend part of their time giving feedback to you.
Chatting is the impulse that "you like someone" should have. This impulse may not come at any time, but it will definitely not disappear for several days.
When you feel that chatting with this person is meaningless, it only means that "this relationship means nothing to you";
When you feel that chatting with this person is very tiring , that can only mean that "you have not balanced your respective needs in this relationship."
Love is very important.
The ability to love someone is more important.
Chatting actually allows two people to undergo a training process. In this process, we are constantly learning how to love, how to express our needs, and how to balance and maintain the relationship.
Those couples who have a tacit understanding and envy others are actually not perfect from the beginning, but are constantly adjusted and cultivated through little things.
You both need to find the most comfortable way of love little by little in the process of running in. This is a process that you must go through, and no one can escape it.
Intimate relationships are divided into "love relationships" and "ambiguous relationships." In the game of intimate relationships, the best result is not winning, but balancing.
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