Chasing a girl, the girl’s feedback was pretty good when I first started chasing her, so I started to be extra enthusiastic towards her, but I found that I became colder and colder as I chased her. What’s going on?
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1. Why are girls getting colder and colder?
Only by taking the initiative can you gain love. When chasing a girl, you will love her. Enthusiasm is actually okay, but if you are too proactive and enthusiastic, and such enthusiasm and initiative do not get timely feedback from girls, it is easy for you to think too much, and then you can't help but send messages to girls, forming a The bombardment of information is overly enthusiastic and ultimately gives girls an immature feeling, and girls will naturally become colder and colder.
You know, out of the instinct to protect themselves, most girls will first doubt the boy's motives when facing a boy's enthusiasm, and then they are not sure whether the boy is sincere to them. Intentionally or unintentionally, he will behave coldly. This is the initial screening of this boy.
Therefore, if you don’t want the girl you are chasing to become colder and colder, then you must control your enthusiasm and control your emotions.
Some boys may say that if a girl has become cold, is there any way to make her enthusiastic except giving up?
The answer is of course, but It requires you to make some changes.
2. How to make girls who are indifferent to you enthusiastic again
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Have you ever heard of this idiom "keep calm in the face of danger"? It means not panicking when encountering danger. It describes a person's ability to calmly face a crisis. Think about a person's ability to face danger calmly. If he can still face it calmly, he will immediately feel that this person is very awesome. Even though he is panicking in his heart, on the surface he is still a very awesome person.
The same is true when chatting with girls. If a girl is slow to reply to messages or does not reply to messages, she will start to panic and become worried about gains and losses. She may even ask the girl why she thinks this person is a bit of a loser or even says she lacks women. ?
On the contrary, no matter whether the girl replies or not, she behaves very calmly. When chatting with the girl in a calm tone, will the girl be able to see the hidden charm in the words from the beginning? , I can’t help but think that this man looks pretty good.
Therefore, when chatting with girls, you must remain calm in your mentality. The more calm you are, the less girls can guess your thoughts, and they will be more willing to understand you.
2. Lead the topic
The purpose of establishing a calm attitude in chatting is to balance the relationship between you and the girl relationship, and want to deepen the girl’s impression of himLike, we also need to lead the direction of the topic.
To understand a healthy and interactive relationship between the sexes, it is a necessary process for men to play the role of leader and guide girls to share more.
So how to lead? In fact, to put it bluntly, it is to talk in an aspect that is beneficial to you, for example:
Female: I am hungry
Male : Look at the braised pork I made, is your mouth watering?
Female: Hum, it makes me even hungrier.
Male: Haha, little lazy boy, do you want to... .
Female: What are you doing?
Male: Come to my house and feed you
Female: I don’t want it
Male: Then You are such a mouthful, I remember there is a xx restaurant, you must like it, let’s try it together next time
The girl said she was hungry In this matter, we started chatting by sharing our cooking skills, showing off our strengths, and then invited the girl to our home to get closer. When she refused, we blurred the invitation and changed the chat content in a direction that was beneficial to us. Chat, rather than gossip, that is of no use.
If the girl you are chasing has become cold, you only need to do the above two points, and she will naturally become enthusiastic again.
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