Many boys will choose to stalk girls when they are chasing them. However, to be honest, stalking girls is ineffective. Not only will it not have any effect, but it will make women feel that you are entangled.
Stalking a girl who has a crush on you will immediately reduce your attractiveness in her eyes; For girls who don't like you, it will only make them more disgusted and disgusted, and may eventually be deleted and blocked. It can be said that when chasing a girl, stalking her will do you harm but nothing good.
Love is all about attraction and feeling. If a girl doesn’t call you, trying to please her through hard work and being too entangled will only have the opposite effect. When you are shopping, how would you feel if the salesman keeps recommending things you don’t want to buy and won’t let you go? When you get a haircut, the barber always wants you to perm, dye, and style your hair, and pesters you. If you don't let go, how will you feel? Are you very disgusted?
The same principle applies when getting along with girls. If a cow doesn't want to drink water, you can't push its head down to make it drink. Those goddesses who make your heart beat, do they force you or pester you to make you like her? In fact, she may not even have direct contact with you, and you are already attracted to her. Feeling and liking are emotional feelings that are naturally triggered when value appears.
By pestering, pleasing, and impressing, you can only change a person's logic, not her feelings. When humans make decisions, most of the time they follow their emotions. For example, you make up your mind to study hard and get admitted to Tsinghua University and Peking University, but when the alarm clock rings in the early morning, your body and mood don't want to get up at all, so you give up on your logical goal; you make up your mind to exercise and keep fit and eat vegetarian food to stay healthy. The smell of barbecue overwhelms you, so you set your logical goal.
Even you yourself can’t resist your own emotions, not to mention that girls themselves are emotional animals! Don’t do to others what you don’t want others to do to you. Coercion is not sweet. Trying to control a woman's heart by stalking her is like trying to hold quicksand with the palm of your hand. The harder you try, the faster it goes.
Then if stalking girls is useless, what is the correct way to chase girls?
< p> 1. Show valueThe goddess who makes your heart beat has not deliberately taken any action towards you. You have been attracted to her because of her value. When value appears, it will change a person's mood. Like a homeless man who has been hungry for a month, the appearance of delicious food will immediately make him feel hungry. A woman who originally made you feel mediocre suddenly sends you a sexy photo, and you instantly become interested in her. The reason is also the emergence of value.
Trying to pester, reason, or please cannot change a woman’s feelings. The only way to change a girl's mood is value. Value is also relative. For a hungry person, a steamed bun is value, but for a wealthy person, a steamed bun is not of much value. This involves a matching rule. If a girl is very popular and has many suitors, it will be very difficult to attract her. Because the value you have is shared by other men and is not scarce.
Value is in all directions. Your love of sports and knowing how to cook are a kind of value. Your humor and knowledge are also a kind of value.
2. Change the mood
Attraction itself is an emotion, a tension of desire. The emergence of value can make people feel good. For example, if your boss promises to give you a salary increase or your teacher praises your study, it will make you feel like a spring breeze. This is the so-called good mood. Value is always tied to good emotions, so good emotions are also a value.
The process of a girl falling in love with you is the process of her falling in love with you emotionally. In the early stages of acquaintance, you can leave a good impression on a girl by being polite and gentlemanly. After you become familiar with it, you can use interesting and attractive methods to increase a girl's interest in you. After attraction, you can warm up the girl's emotions through romantic and thoughtful ways.
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